How do you forget about someone who has hurt you deeply?
I just want to forget about the whole experience. To make it worst, I am angry at myself for even letting my guard down in the first place. That experience makes me want to put up a wall in order to protect my heart. It's still hard to believe that someone could ever be so cruel. I got my revenge by deflating his ego but at the same time I'm not satisfied. I'm so angry.... Everyday I wake up I always feel like punching a wall or break something. I hold it in but it's getting harder and harder everyday...
2007-09-23 22:56:40 · 19 answers · asked by . 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I also let my guard down about 6 months ago, and let a girl into my life. I found out that she was cheating on me the whole time, and that I did not mean anything to her. I will never let that wall down again. That was 2 months ago, and i am just now feeling a lot better. I hate to say it, but i got over her by switching from loving her more than anyone, to despising her now. I wish nothing but bad for her now, and with her lifestyle, I am sure that this is what she will eventually receive. Build that wall , and don't let anyone break through it again.Good luck to you.
2007-09-24 01:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by out for justice. 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
From experience, I've learned that you really cannot forget how a person has hurt you. All the the things in your life that you go through, make up the person that you are today. When you honestly look at yourself and see that you are not the person at fault then you can take the focus off of yourself and realize that some people are hurtful. Just because, you fall off of a bike, does that really stop you from getting back on? If you are a good person, then no matter what other people do or say to you, can change the person you are. If you let it affect you, you are letting that person have control of you. Do you think that you should give him the satisfaction of letting him see you react this way? People suck sometimes! Life does go on.
2007-09-24 06:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by vince g 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For me, the only way I can become relaxed after such an experience is with TIME. It may be painful and seem forever, but after a few months or even years you will be feeling much better. That's the magic of time.
However, if that "him" is going to be around you in your life, it may be hard to forget about what he's done to you. You would just have to hope that things will go the positive way.
But since you know more about yourself than any other, I think you're capable of figuring out the best thing you could do in order to make yourself feel better. I would strongly oppose another revenge - it can create dangerous hostility (which could hurt you more), but I believe you would know the limits.
What ever happens and whatever you decide to do, we all wish you the best of luck! Feel better soon, okay.
2007-09-24 03:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time.... TIme will ease the pain... Then when u find someone who make su happy and u can compare it... that the other wasn't no good... U will appreciate that the other person hurt it u... cuz if that person never hurt it u... u would of never met the person u are happy with now......... time is what it takes... it is going to hurt... cuz u cant forget about stuff like that immediately. Its impossible, its not like u have an eraser that can just erase that incident... just go with the pain. Pain means= something good is about to happen. But, first u have to accept the pain and try to let it go and not do anything negative. Live your life, it will pop up and give u anxiety and anger etc. Just take it. It will go away eventually.... maybe30 days to a few months... i too was goin thru something similar... when someone i loved pasted away.. I was angry and sad and depressed and couldnt do anything about it.. but pray anc cry out to God and took it a day at a time... now I know everything happens for a reason.
GOD BLESS YOU!
2007-09-23 23:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that you were hurt.. Being hurt really sucks and it usually takes a while to move on from it. Being angry is not something new, you'll go through a lot of emotions, but don't let it ruin your whole outlook on relationships... Thankfully, not all people are the same...
You just have to try to keep busy and distract yourself, so you don't think about it... Hang around with friends and family more, go out more places and have fun, read books, exercise (even try boxing or something if you want to). Try anything to forget about it. Don't let them come crawling back and try to suck you in again.. Stay Strong, stay proud and remember to smile.. Just make sure you don't keep your walls up forever... there are people who truly love and care about you..
Good luck
2007-09-23 23:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by KieKie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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I just want to forget about the whole experience. To make it worst, I am angry at myself for even letting my guard down in the first place. That experience makes me want to put up a wall in order to protect my heart. It's still hard to...
2015-08-23 07:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kristal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think happy thoughts. I know it's hard sometimes but you gotta try. LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR BEING MISERABLE!
Think of all the happy times you guys had together. And I know a lot of ppl here have said it and I don't think it's being said enough. Forgive the situation ever happened to you and forgive to those who had done it. Then try (keyword: TRY) to forget the whole situation. Make yourself a better person so next time you won't let it happen to you again. Put your guard up but also open up to those who mattered. Enjoy good companies like family and really good friends (you know which one they are).
Think of all the positive things that you have and you have done in your life, to yourself and to others. And give yourself something to celebrate that.
Be happy, be joyful and think of all the things you have in your life and feel blessed that you have them.
There's not worth of your time and energy to still be angry and be revengeful, or even hurting yourself.
2007-09-24 05:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Narita Ayu Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is a natural reaction to getting hurt by a loved one. You are angry and want to get revenge. That's understandable. The fact is you will never forget, but in time the hurt will go away. The best revenge you can get is getting on with your life. Go out with friends, find a hobby, immerse yourself in other things. You will feel better eventually, it isn't easy, it just takes time. Hope this helps.
2007-09-23 23:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Bonnie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i have been in that situation 3 years ago. i know the pain can be compared to an open wound that is being poked repeatedly. anyway how did i went through the "getting over stage?"
First, admit and accept personally that you will never have that "special someone" acknowledge the pain/hurt and let yourself cry.
Second, you must know how to "rise from the fall." Know and acknowledge that you are beautiful/ complete without that "someone." Try to be independent and get rid of the attachments to the things/place that reminds you of that "someone."
Third, Help yourself to " feel good about yourself" you must love yourself first. Do some make over! Buy yourself a "feel good about myself" gift. Go shopping and visit a spa or beauty parlor.
fourth, try to go out with friend. Meet new persons. Indulge into your favorite sports and make yourself busy...
2007-09-23 23:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by gaby 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you find a new love the old one will seem distant. In the mean time do what all guys will do, drink too much and smash doors with your fist. If you really want to hit the wall buy an inexpensive stud finder so you dont hit the 2x4.
2007-09-24 03:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by Zeppelin! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋