My boyfriend and I haveonly been together for a month. We met online...We talked for 2 weeks before I would meet him. When I did meet him it went great....The next day I had major surgery and he was at the hospital all 3 days with my parents....then when I got home he came every day but the nights that he worked. Then a week after being around one another he told me that he wanted to just be with me and I agreed because I really like him...Two days after that I met his family, which everything went great. He has been married and the divorce was finalized two years ago. Ok the main point the other night he told his best friend somthing about us, thenwouldnttell me....so last night he told me " Somtimes im at a loss because your different than any girl that I have ever beenwith in a good way. I'm used to girls acting and reacting in certain ways and you dont d othat.Its great because your the coolest and most understanding girl thatI have ever been with." How should I take it?
2007-09-23 21:25:48 · 9 answers · asked by MeMe07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure if I should tell him how I feel, I have been holding my feelings back because I didnt want to scare him! Also im always use to getting hurt in relationships. I have always dated older guys, just because of the way I carry myself, I'm also told by guys in there early 20s that im intimidating.We did just hit the one month mark 2 weeks ago, and we both said to one another it feels like it has been so much longer that that!Then we were like hmm is that a good thing or a bad thing? Both of our families have said the same thing though, just saying that it seems like we have been together alot longer !
2007-09-23 21:26:21 · update #1
i think you just said it feels like longer because you're so comfortable with eachother and get along/understand eachother so well that it seems you've known eachother forever. this is not a bad thing. it's also a movieline, you know "it feels like i've known you forever". they never say it in a bad way, you see?
and about him saying you're not like any other girl he has ever been with - in a good way: a lot of girls are dramaqueens (fussing about stupid little stuff like not enough calls/him talking to other girls/...) so he probably learned in previous relationships to act in such a way that he wouldn't upset them, but now he's with you and you're not like that so he doesn't have to obey all these girl-rules that were laid down for him in previous relationships. you're probably more easy-going, not trying to change him, less demanding - or demanding but in a positively reïnforcing way. this is not bad at all hun!!
as to telling him how you feel... a month isn't that long. if you're afraid to get hurt you can always take the easy approach: do little sweet stuff for him that show him you care (an unexpected hug every now and then, asking whether he would like a drink and getting it for him, ...). just find ways to let you're feelings shine through and see how he responds to this. if he responds positively, you could tell him you have a really great time with him and that you really like him.
i'm seeing my guy for 8 months now and i'm still afraid to express my exact feelings because i'm afraid he'll leave me someday. but life is too short for that kind of stuff: what if he turns out to be the one but he leaves you just because you don't open up...? i'm gonna stop protecting my self too. i'm not saying you shouldn't protect your heart, i just mean there is a certain time at which it's okay to let down your quard and come forward with your feelings. figure out when this is for you!!
good luck to the both of you
2007-09-23 21:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take what he said as a compliment! Its good that he obviously feels at ese with you that he can be open with you, i do think though that you should hold back on the feelings front im kinda old fashioned and think a guy should say it first! Maybe just drop a few subtle hints in his direction to let him know that you think more of him, sounds like its a nice relationship you have going there, definately a keeper anyway, good luck :)
2007-09-23 21:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your time, it has only been a month. Things that progress too fast generally deteriorate that fast too.
Believe me I understand how you feel, because I am going through a similar thing right now. I just keep trying to hold back though. I don't want to rush in and get hurt!!
2007-09-23 21:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what your question is. Everything seems to be going right in your relationship, so there isn't any advice to give.
If it's going well, just be cool. See what happens. If it no longer works (for whatever reason), then move on. That's all there is to it.
2007-09-23 21:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don"t think it is fair to compare you to others. He should accept you the way you are.I don" think you should treat this relationship seriously unless you know him better. Give it sometime.
2007-09-23 21:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by dicovi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you met his parents then its a big step, i mean i wouldnt do that with a chick i just known for a month so maybe its genuine...
gl & peace!
2007-09-23 21:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, but he really care for you.
2007-09-23 21:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like theres a possibility you two have exploded into this thing really fast. i dunno, he spilled his guts, and if you like him you should spill yours too . just be careful, if you build something too fast, it could topple over
2007-09-23 21:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ricardus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relax .. you should wait.... it alwayz seems this good your still getting used to each other......
2007-09-23 21:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋