Why do people say I'm wrong for worrying & dwelling on things, & I have OCD & anxiety disorder?

Question

I can't help it. Why am I wrong for what I can't control? When things upset me, I find myself worrying, & it helps to talk it out & ask for advice from an understanding & patient person in order to help me feel relieved & forget it.

Answer 1

I had the same reaction from people about my clinical depression.
They just don't understand.
I told them that my suicidal thoughts were like unwanted computer pop-ups and nothing could block them.

Answer 2

I am in a similar situation. It is something that has been with me since I started kindergarten.

I started out being a very friendly child, but after a series of rejections, I started withdrawing and living mostly inside my own head and using things like videos and games and material items to help me cope. Characters on TV became my friends. When I was little, stuffed animals were my friends.

All of my formative relationships involved abuse or rejection. I could never stand up for myself and as I progressed through school, became a favorite target.

My relationships starting in grade school and continuing to present always seem to end with my partner or friend thinking they can "fix" me and when they can't they abandon the relationship.

You are not at all wrong. You have an illness. It's not your fault.

Unfortunately, society tends to look down on the mentally/emotionally ill as they resent the fact that so many are on government assistance. Apparently a lot of people don't consider it a disability, but rather a choice to behave in a way that inhibits their ability to work, form relationships, and participate in group activities. Further, it is simply a part of the human "pecking order". Anyone who is "different" is singled out. Sometimes they are driven away from social situations by both their own inhibitions and the very people they are trying to form social bonds with.

It is sad that the suffering have to suffer for suffering.

If you can afford it, find a good licensed psychologist for Cognitive Behavior Therapy. Sometimes medication may be required. You may be prescribed an SSRI such as Zoloft or Paxil, an older drug that is sedating to help you sleep such as Remeron or Trazedone. Sometimes they will even prescribe the anti-psychotic drug Seroquel as it also has a sedation effect. And lastly you may be prescribed a low dose of an anti-anxiety med in the benzodiazepine class such as fast acting Xanax or Ativan or one with a longer half life such as Klonopin. All of these medications have good and bad consequences to them. It will be up to you to weigh the risks vs. the benefits. It is often a long process to get the right meds at the right doseages.

Good luck

Answer 3

You are not wrong for it. It is however something as a majority people don't do...

You need to talk with a theripist as they will help you not want/need to worry about everything so much. There is a place and time for worrying. When you find yourself doing it too much it can hold you back from doing alot of things you want to do. It has also been shown to be as detrimental to your health as stress. Stress can kill darlin.

A theripist will help you. More than you think possible too. They can help you let go more easily and learn to focus that energy on something more positive.

You are by no means wrong for having OCD and anxiety. Trust me.

Answer 4

You are not WRONG for doing this. It is just not good for you. Some people do not have any empathy and cannot imagine how you are feel. This is no reason for these people to be cruel and not understanding. However, people may continue to advise you not to dwell on things because this would be best for you. They do not understand that you have a hard time stopping this behavior. Many (I think most) people do not understand mental illnesses.

Answer 5

OCD can be a pain in the butt. The constant worry and the rituals can get way annoying, really fast for everyone involved. If talking helps, then talk away. Who says you are wrong? You have an illness that you cannot control.

Answer 6

I go through the same kinds of things, it seems like the older I get the more relaxed I become! Try to find a way to relax as much as possible when you are worrying about it, then ask yourself if there is anything that you can do to change whatever is happening, it helped me to deal with it better when I knew there wasn't anything I could do about it, and if there is something you can do to make it better than do it!

Answer 7

I have ocd as well and in addition to prozac weekly, the time released prozac, I received cognitive-behavorial therapy (cbt) for the ocd symptoms. The cbt really helped to deal with the ritualizing (compulsion) but also aided in quieting some of the obsessions. I'd gone to a clinical psychologist (Ph.d) who specialized in anxiety disorders and cbt. The medication certainly certainly helps lessen the duration and frequency of the symptoms. Be well!

Answer 8

You aren't wrong for worrying. Dwelling on things can sometimes be bad for you, but it isn't really wrong. Unless your worrying affects your daily life I don't really think you have anxiety disorder, you might just worry a lot like me.

Answer 9

with a anxiety disorder its best not to worry and throw yourself into a anxiety attack, its best just to talk it out like you said or think of something eles and tell your self positive things...
Maybe those people tell you that your wrong for worrying because they dont want you too & maybe know worrying & dwelling on things is not best for you....

Answer 10

there is nothing wrong with that i do it all the time . it doesnt make you a bad person you are a very good person maybe you just dont give yourself enough credit sometimes. sometimes you need to breathe stop and smell the roses. you are a person who is really in touch with yourself and with your own feelings. you carry yourself with such confidence and have passion for everyone around you and making others feel happy and putting them first. good job. AMEN!