How come?
2007-09-23 20:21:13 · 14 answers · asked by Serba Tau 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is something that happens quite often. i've been in this situation myself. you've probably been seeing your gf for quite some time now, right? so things have gotten very comfortable, but also a bit dull. then a new girl comes along, you like her and feel the excitement of meeting someone new, getting the possibility to fall in love again, ...
it happens to the best of us... but you need to decide. you can't have both.
if i were you, i'd start looking for the source of this feeling: is it because this new girl is giving you the attention that you're starting to miss from your girlfriend? is it just that the relationship with your girlfriend is becoming a bit dull? or do you simply not love her anymore? also, be aware of the fact that (if you and your girl have been together for a pretty long time now) infatuation fades away, and that love normally replaces it. if you don't feel like you want to be with your girl anymore, want to hold her, make love to her, make her happy, ... perhaps you don't love her anymore.
ofcourse, only you can know this since there's no info on any of that in your question.
if you don't love her anymore, it's probably best to take some time apart and see whether or not the feeling comes back. if then you start to miss her, you probably do still have feelings for her and you could work things out if you like. if you don't miss her or something like that you should think about ending things with her.
on the other hand, if you know right here and now that you still love her, you should think about if there's anything missing in your relationship. do you still have sex? do you still talk? do you still share intimate moments and all that? because if you don't, it's pretty normal to unconciously go looking for that elsewhere. in my personal opinion, you should think about making your relationship stronger again if this is the fact.
anyway, i think it's probably lust and excitement you feel for this new girl... but don't forget: if you leave your current gf and start something with this new girl... infatuation will fade too, it simply does...
personally, i'm the sort of girl to keep trying to fix a relationship as long as we love eachother and neither of us does something really horrible. there will be people here telling you "oh break up with the old gf and go for the new one", but this depends on your personality...
take your time, make up your mind!
good luck!!
2007-09-23 20:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okei then,. break up with your girl friend
but dont enter a relationship YET
think deeply
be single for a while
and think if you can go on without your ex
do that within a month or two
then decide
2007-09-23 20:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by JIGGOY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you LOVE your girlfriend as well?
i mean i you are in love with someone else why would you make yourself suffer? i know it would hurt your gf but it will hurt her more if she finds out that you don't love her. but if you do have feelings for your present gf, try to figure out what it is with another gilr, whether it's real or just a minute emotional kink.
2007-09-23 20:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by masha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you and your gf should take a break from eachother. find out if you really do love this other person or if it is just lust. when you take the break, you will either find that your gf is the one for you or isnt the one for you. but either way, its only fair to her.
2007-09-23 20:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by danuh_bananuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're not ready to commit to one woman...and that's OK---as long as you don't enjoy "spice on the side" while dating your girlfriend.
If you want to see other women, break it off w/ the girlfriend---hard to do, I know.....but better than getting caught w/ your hand in the cookie jar.
2007-09-23 20:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You only want her because your taken and that to you means that you can't have her... It might seem like a good idea but in the vast of everything it isn't...
2007-09-23 20:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U will ditch one or both.
2007-09-23 20:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by sureshcm m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your human. this is common and not wrong. if ur married, that would be diffferent.
2007-09-23 20:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by agello24 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make up your mind dude!
2007-09-23 20:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is colled lust not love. you don,t know what is love and lust
2007-09-23 20:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋