My husband will not throw away stuff and he goes through the trash 2 c what I have tossed. I know its because he was poor as a child but I need to rid my house of the clutter. Any ideas??
2007-09-23 20:12:41 · 11 answers · asked by GabbyGal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im not talking about tossing his stuff. Yea that would drive him bonkers cuz I have done it b 4. He has a10 year old pc he never uses that he refuses to get rid of. I have put it in the closet and he drags it out again.
2007-09-23 20:47:34 · update #1
ask him to help you clean, he may be emotionally attactched to some 'junk' more than other. ask him why, and don't sneak or just do it, that could hurt your relationship, but do give him a limit of things he can keep. But if he keeps everything(papers, egg crates, torn clothes, ext) it may be a type of horders disease.
2007-09-23 20:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by bethan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your pretty much doomed. But there is one way to cut down on the clutter. Look for the brighter side of the so called junk without a purpose. Put it to use and even look for others who may take interest in some of it. Besides the extra money, the feeling of doing some body a favor may help your husband feel proud. Or just face it the fact that one day that so called junk will find a way to serve it's purpose. Good Luck!
2007-09-24 03:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by DANNY M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is like that. He's the pack rat and I'm the neat freak. It does not work to throw his stuff out. He will miss it immediately. The problem that I have with it, other than that it looks bad, is that if he is needing something he cannot find it. He will go to the store and buy another new one instead of looking for the one he already has. His clutter actually costs us money. Lately I have declared war on this problem and told him that he has to get his sh#t organized. We are working on building some storage systems. Anything that cannot go in a drawer or hanger on the wall will have to go. And I'm not compromising on that. He hasn't been informed of that yet, so it may become interesting.
2007-09-24 10:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him before you start sneaking. Maybe the two of you can come to some accommodation with each other. Try to work out some rules like a set amount of space for stuff, once the space is full he has to get rid of something before he can add anything more. Or a set number of years he can hold on to anything. Whatever you do don't just throw or you'll have bigger problems in your relationship than just some junk.
2007-09-24 11:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try looking for resources about storage and space saving ideas for the home that you could implement to reduce clutter by not just throwing things out. Also, maybe the two of you can work out what you could give to charity. If he is being obsessive about not throwing things out (as opposed to checking because he is wary from things you have chucked out in the past), maybe this is a case for seeing the doctor about getting help with this tendency. Maybe you can also recycle more which would reduce rubbish, even if it meant putting some materials in a recycle bin that still gets emptied. Maybe you could have a garage sale or sell some things on ebay, because if he is worried about material things and value of items, that might be a way of getting somewhere with not just throwing it out, but not necessarily hording it either. Good luck with it.
2007-09-24 06:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be seriously angry and probably never forgive you if you toss out ANYTHING of his. He has VERY different feelings and serious deep rooted attachment to "hoarding", and will NOT be capable of understanding WHY you threw out his stuff.
He needs to get counseling from a pro - - until he does, you are begging for trouble if you go behind his back and clean house. I am NOT saying you should have to live with his problem - I AM saying not to be a sneak, do not throw stuff out, DO strongly urge him to get help because it is driving YOU crazy. Give him a chance to get help - - once he gets it, most likely HE will be tossing out the junk and you wont have to!
2007-09-24 03:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont chuck it - sell it. It is amazing what sells online. Hubby would have to struggle to be a grump if you handed him a wad of cash for his junk...
...ok so he would probably want to go and buy more junk... if you can just force him to watch those programmes of older people living in houses with rooms stacked to the ceiling of junk... Sky's Living Channel has these programmes on all the time...
I did the selling of my hubbies junk on trade me and now he's hooked! Good luck from an old hoarders wife!
2007-09-24 03:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Monkeysmum 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi ,find the nearest dump ,wait til he is out all day ,hire a van fill the van with all the junk and take it to the tip ,and lose it there ,and thats it gone ,till he starts again ,.......good luck and take care xx
2007-09-24 05:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every week start grabbing some things and bring them to the local dump. Don't make it too obvious.
2007-09-24 03:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a nut . I was very poor and I don't check the garbage. for stuff i want. Its all crap let it go......
2007-09-24 03:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by jg6277 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋