please be honest. i have a boyfriend and i also have a guy friend that has a girlfriend. my guy friend and i like to chat-but our signifigant others don't know. i have a thing for this guy-is he just playing with my mind? should i stop chatting with him?
2007-09-23 19:52:10 · 18 answers · asked by cherie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have a "thing" for this guy, why do you have a boyfriend?
Is this "thing" LUST, or do you see qualities in him that you would like to explore further. If so, you need to break up with your boyfriend and he needs to break up with his girlfriend, before you do anything else. You need to realize that if he is the bad boy type, he is always on the hunt to get laid. Wether or not he is in a relationship. He does not care about anybody. He only cares about ANY BODY. If you can't tell your significant other about this guy then you shouldn't be talking to him. DECIDE, nice guy or bad boy?
2007-09-23 20:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooo be careful!
Ok... there MAY be something there in that guy, in this hidden relationship, but understand that if you decide to act on it there are going to be some serious consequences. My advice to you is to ask this "secret confidant" how he feels about the two of you talking and just discuss it with him, how he feels about "hiding" your relationship with your partners.
Just take it from there. Maybe he is just not happy and looking for another fling but not serious about you... or maybe he is serious... I can't say because I don't understand the situation like you do.
But what I can say is, if you feel guilty for chatting with him (which you obviously are wondering about) than it is a BAD idea to continue to chat with him. But if this is your decision at least have the courtesy to let him know whats up.
But don't make him feel like a weasel. Treat him with respect and try to come along side him in your decision instead of shutting him down, you know? This will give him an opportunity to tell you how he really feels about you?
Hope this helps!
2007-09-24 02:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by spitfiremk2497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel he is worth the risk to destroy what you have and try something new with him well go for it. But if you dont want to destroy what you have and feel that what you feel for him might do that then dont. You know what you feel and what is right or wrong, its all of matter of making that decision so its all fair game if you do it, then its important to let the person know because its not fair to lie and cheat on someone thats been there for you thats just not right. Ill be honest with you its not an easy decision to make, but in the end you got to make a choice and live by reaction it might affect you and others concerened with this situation.
2007-09-24 02:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jimsenite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-24 03:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any respect and love for the boyfriend you are with now, keep it simple and do not let this get out of hand. He may not be playing with your mind, but trust me when I tell you that good things don't come from situations like this often.
2007-09-24 02:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Villain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, cherie, I think you should consider this guy friends a bit more seriously. It seems that you get on well, are relaxed with each other, and can be honest and straightforward with each other. This is a rare gift, even (or especially?) in marriage. if you can convince him, I think he is your man.
Think about it.
Love comes in many guises, and doesn't necessarily have a lot of drama with it.
Over to you, girl!
2007-09-24 03:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off do you have strng feelings towards your boyfriend? If you do let your boyfriend know about your friend! Dont put yourself in a position where you have the cake in front of you and want to taste it? My ex did the same to me kept her guy friend to herself. Boom the beotch did it slept with him and told me. Guy had to change his name so I wouldn't find him. Went to jail for fighting the guys brother and best friend. Broke the best friends arm and gave his brother a cauliflower ear along with 24 stiches across the face. Out on dropped charges.
2007-09-24 03:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by SILVER BACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he may just see you as a friend but i think its a little more than chatting .if you are going to stay with your boyfriend only if the it her guy is playing you that is wring and you should leave him if you do not truly want him.
but to answer your question it could be either
he may really want you or using you as a side person(WHICH IS WHAT YOUR ABOUT TO DO TO YOUR CURRENT BOYFRIEND IF THE OTHER GUY LIKES YOU TO.)
2007-09-24 02:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by kingml213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be friends, you just have to draw a line that neithero f you can cross. If you can't tell your SO's what's going on then you might want to reign it in a bit.
2007-09-24 02:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lame, if you have "a thing" with this guy does it mean you're just waiting for him to make a move so you can dump ur guy? if so, why don't you just dump ur guy right now? I mean it seems like you don't even like him all that much
PS- don't cheat, it would be a coward's move
2007-09-24 02:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by b3nzin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋