He is very nice. his character is very good.If i such this type of boy i won't get any where. So i don't want to live him.
2007-09-23 19:35:14 · 9 answers · asked by ROSITA R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Marriage should be for life. If you have any doubts whatsoever -- wait and see what happens. Marriage is about meeting each others needs. Frankly not working makes it difficult to meet many of the needs you will have during your marriage.
I don't want to be judgemental, he may be a wonderful person. But how long has he been out of work? If it's more than three months maybe you should tell him how you feel about his not working. If he is dismissive about it or makes excuses then you have to ask the question: "Is this how he will act throughout our marriage? Will he just dismiss my needs and concerns?"
I would give him a chance, but if he doesn't get a job very soon, then you should rethink and look elsewhere.
2007-09-23 19:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its obvious you dump him, but ask him how you both expect to make a living. If you really like this guy then you wouldnt have this issue and make the sacrifices for him, but if it bothers you this much then question why he is in the situation he is in now and how he expects to fix it or if he is happy the way things are. Either way if you love him it doesnt matter you both work together with this issue if you dont then its a no brainer, you let him go and see if he is willing to make a change but dont take him back till he has proven hes a changed man for the better for the both of you.
2007-09-24 03:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jimsenite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what you will do to make it happen.
question yourself, do you want to get married to him?
if so, help finding him a job. if he's a nice guy in your eyes, probably he is qualified enough to find the job.
if he had a job, is he the one for you then? job is important. we don't want a slacker who cant find or try to find one.
unless theres a rich family to give money, you can't just get married w/o money anyways. that's how it works in this society so far.
find him a job then see if he's willing. i know that, you don't wanna support him.
2007-09-24 02:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...is he even looking for a job? If he has no motivation thats not good...you will only end up supporting him...unless he has money up the gazoo or something and will never have to work a day in his life...well then MARRY HIM!!!..hahah
2007-09-24 02:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to try again when he is in a responsible job, and can make plans for a good future.
2007-09-24 02:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to settle himself financially before getting a wife. if u luv him immensely, u may begin working and marry him even before he begins to work. one of you should be working before marriage. who works is not important.
2007-09-24 02:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's rough, if you really love him you'll work it out, if your not feeling it move on, maybe that'll motivate him to get out there and make something out of himself
2007-09-24 02:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sound good if he try to get work 1st...dont be fool
2007-09-24 02:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by ajier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, cause he dont work, u dont like him? i guess that is a good reason.
2007-09-24 02:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by agello24 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋