My boyfriend doesn’t like me talking to guys, and he don’t like me going out and freak out without any reason. He wants me stay home and behave like a typical Indian girl (homely and house wife types) I don’t have any problem with this but at the same time he go out and meet his friends,One day instead of spending time with me he went out with his friend. This annoyed me a lot and I tried to discuss this with him, But he dint understand my point and he said that after marriage I will be jealous if he will go out with real brother too, I tried to convince him and tried to explain the difference between brother and friend but he is not ready to listen and said he think he should not marry me, Am i wrong here??? are guys free to do whatever they want??
2007-09-23 19:30:28 · 34 answers · asked by zapak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you two are on different maturity levels, because you seek to improve yourself for the relationship and desire to communicate with him, but he very immaturely turns your concerns for the relationship into his concerns about your jealousy. He knows that going out with friends and going out with family are to seperate things, but if he can make you look unreasonable then he will. However the real issue isn't who he is going out with or when, it is does he respect you enough to give you the same treatment he would want for himself, if so then he wouldn't mind you having your fun or he would stay with you more. One thing for sure you are not wrong and I would consider what a life would be like if things got worse.
2007-09-23 19:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by projo963 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think it's a bad idea for a guy or girl to hang out with a friend of the opposite sex without other people around it just leaves too many doorways open. And guys can usually overpower girls so it could get bad. I'm not saying totally ditch all friends of the opposite sex just keep an eye out for signs of your "friend" trying to push the relationship further and let them know your not interested it may be a little imbarasing especially if they're not interested but at least the relationship you have with the one you love will stay stable.
2007-09-23 19:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by supremestarscream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not. You should be alarmed, lady. It seems that your boyfriend is somehow a self-centered man who only listens to himself. If he really loves you, he should have listened to you and you would discuss things over. The thing is he's just trying to make an alibi so he would not be able to marry you. even though we have different cultures, intuition and common sense would dictate that you're fiance don't love you. he just keeps you so that he has someone he could call as a girlfriend. hope you won't mind saying me this, okay?
2007-09-23 19:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems so strict about your relationship in a way that you're so dependent on what he wants you to do. If you don't mind, try to tell him anything about ur feelings and your reactions. He should realize that he hurts you. If he wont listen and just resist doing that for you, better split your relationship with him. You can find anyone who treats you good. But in the end, it's up to you. Maybe, you may try talking that to your parents or his parents.
2007-09-23 19:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Maxine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, guys are not free to do whatever they want, but as long as you're going to agree to stay in a relationship like that where he controls everything, you may as well accept that he can make the rules on EVERYTHING, and you have no say in the matter. Good luck.
2007-09-23 19:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever given him reason not to trust you? If you haven't then chances are it could be pure machismo or just the way he was brought up.I became the same way with my ex fiance but after she told me she had cheated with a friend of hers while our relationship was going though had times. If you have been faithful and he acts this way means he might never change.
2007-09-23 19:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by SILVER BACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's overprotective, and you need to get out. I was in the same situation. I found out who he really was. He went out with other girls and everything. And he HATED it when I said ONE sinlge word about a guy. There he was going out with other girls. But I wanted to stay with him.
If I stayed in that relaitonship....I would be in deep trouble. It's very bad.....and no, guys are not 'better' than girls. Girls are humans, too. You should be able to make friends if you want.
But...just be careful. If you feel you should stay with him and it's not serious or anything, then yeah....
2007-09-23 19:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by DragonLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that kind of ur bf's behavior is quite scary. what more can he do when you get into marriage .you should be the one thinking if you would want to marry this kind of guy. confront him and compromise. he should not be the one dictating you always. if he can go out with his friends why cant you? i knew a lot of man who has a jealous and freaking out attitude and their wives became a buttered one and very regretful. so better think honey...you dont want to be one of them, right?
2007-09-23 19:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by chiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are both free to do what they want. There has to be trust on both sides if a relationship is going to work. He shouldn't expect you to sit at home while he goes out, if you can't go out with your friends.
2007-09-23 19:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by the_wayward1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to leave him! he sound controlling and no women should be controlled by a man u have ur own say in what u do and he is no god to play u like a puppet. he sounds like a controlling jerk and thinks only men can have fun when its not the case enjoy life while young and leave him and find someone that u can relate to and that wont controll u
2007-09-23 19:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by qu3en 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋