I am in a vulnerable situation. I am homeless, trying to get a life ei; looking for housing ect; I have a friend here that says he's out for my best interest but is indirectly saying he wants something more. I would not be here if I had somewhere else to go & it won't be much longer till I'm gone. I've made it perfectly clear thers's nothing between us and yet he always seems 2 find a way to try and manipulate me to try & try to control me. He just wants to be near me but I'm crowded?
2007-09-23 18:54:32 · 5 answers · asked by pokawawa 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
he's not your friend...if you have access to a computer, use your mind to find out what you can do...no friend would make you feel obligated, and no friend would take advantage of you, when you are down like this...go to a shelter if you have to..but don't let this person, use your downtrodden luck, to have his way..you will end up resenting him anyway, and it's better not to owe anyone..my prayers are with you honey x
2007-09-23 23:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people can see your vulnerability and try to take advantage of that, I don't know why, but to me some just have that ability to see through you. True friends never ever expect anything in return, and in fact would probably get frustrated with you, if you offered anything. I know I would.
The people that say they don't want anything( but in fact they do want something in return). To me I feel aren't your real friends.
The best way to stop that from happening from those kind of people, is to never allow them to help you in any way. This person sounds like he is a controlling person and perhaps severing all ties with him, might be the best answer. Cause I feel eventually he will break you, no matter how strong u are. Good luck
2007-09-23 19:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are truly interested in helping those in need do not take advantage of the situation to get something in return. It sounds as though this person has some issues and is using your situation as a way to feed/fix his own. If you are in fact homeless, find a shelter. I know its not the best of situations, but you can bet that you wont have to put out for a place to sleep.
2007-09-23 19:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience men always want more especially if they help you. Most of the time they don't want to be just friends. And women may not help you as much if they think you are competition. Real life experience.
2007-09-23 19:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to sex (if that's what you're talking about)...it's YOUR body...you have to live in your body the rest of your life. You have "property rights". If you let him do stuff to you...for staying there...then there's a name for that. Don't let that happen to you. Just say NO NO NO. If he does it anyway..that's rape.
2007-09-23 19:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by Deenie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋