I want him everytime to expect surprises from me, so I can be interesting to him forever
tips and advices would be nice
thank you
2007-09-23 18:45:45 · 18 answers · asked by LG 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First tip is not to do something new every time, or you will run out of ways to surprise him, and it will be expected. Surprise him occasionally. Invite him to the shower or tub. Try new positions. New lingerie. Role play. Rent hotel room for the night. Plan a vacation for the two of you. Make a coupon booklet with coupons for things that he especially enjoys. Watch porn with him. Cook dinner in nothing but an apron. Wake him up in a special way. There must be dozens more ways to surprise him. Just don't surprise him too often. Then it is not a surprise, it becomes a routine.
2007-09-23 18:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. tough question. personally, i can empathize with the question. i've been with the same guy for the past eight and a half years (and he's 22 and i'm 21!) but the truth is, that everyday, i can't wait to see him. you know, even if you do the same thing everyday, you can always make it different by changing the little things like the days to see a movie or a new restaurant to check out. even changing your conversation helps. read weird articles or find a fact that is useless but interesting. i'll be honest, there are days and even weeks that sometimes we seem to be stuck but then something little happens, like we laugh too hard and something that really isn't THAT funny or we bump into each other and giggle at each other's clumsyness. there are times when i'll start a pillow fight or tickle him silly because i'm feeling restless. he used to wrestle while we were in high school so sometimes i try to imitate his moves or just try to keep him on his toes by actually wrestling him until we're too tired and sweaty to move. you'll be surprised at the little things that will make you change your whole perspective on your relationship. good luck and much love.
2007-09-23 19:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by chiquis514 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit extreme and it will soon be overwhelming for you to constantly surprise him. I think it is an unreasonable expectation--settle down and realize that you and he should both work at making the relationship grow everyday. Is he bored?? Did he say he is bored??.Does he expect surprises all the time?? Relationships are not dependant on surprises. Relationships are built on respect, tolerance, love, maturity, dignity, courtesy, acceptance and being able to take the good with the bad. You need to communicate all the time, and plan for the future. Boredom is the least of your problems.
2007-09-23 18:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think we all have that problem from time to time. I know I do. What I've heard and have been doing to help spark interest, is to be that super woman you've always admired. Or, be the person you've always wanted to fall in love with. Whether you know it or not, you are that person and that's what makes it easy. Then again, if all else fails a hiking trip across Europe never hurt! Now that's interesting, hehe. :)
2007-09-23 18:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking an interest in the things he likes to do, and getting him interested in the things you like to do, so that you can do different things together. And maybe, look around and find new and different things that you two can do together.
Sooner or later surprises won't be necessary, as you two will be happy doing things together no matter what they are.
2007-09-23 18:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whee only get bored when we no longer find you interesting,that's when we will come up with excuses not to see you or to just see you for a few minutes.
A home cooked dinner always makes it for a great night of sexual harmony(wine and you=us very happy because we see that you care...p.s..it does not need to be fancy its the thought that counts....
2007-09-23 19:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by celis_sal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spring BJs on him when he least expects it.
Shallow but effective, he'll love you for ever.
Other suggestions include suprise dates, gifts, favours. Anything that is slightly away from your normal couple routine that shows you made an effort to make him happy. If he's like me, your BF will appreciate it even more if whatever you've done is affectionate and designed to show you love him.
2007-09-23 18:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Luke B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, you can't. You can do everything right and he just might still get bored.
But, you can try talking to him, seeing what he wants to try and if it does not rub you wrong then try it.
But there must be more to this if you are afraid he will get bored. I would suggest you look at the "whole picture" before you start trying to change things about you or do things that you might not want to do just to keep him.
Good luck
2007-09-23 18:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a good mood and upbeat all the time is very surprising.
Most people are not always in a good mood and when one is in a bad mood, the other tends to fall into to.
You will most always have fun this way because a good mood is contagious!.
2007-09-23 18:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, be yourself. Stop trying to live up to some expectation. Keep yourself interested in life so that he finds life in you.Try new things like hobbies, new dance class or travel to keep things new. But always be true to yourself.
2007-09-23 18:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋