I am 19 years old and I am working and going to school to become a Dental Assistant. Right now, I cannot find any openings for daycare for my 10 month old son, so he has been staying with my mom who lives 2 hours away. Its been really hard because I miss him so much! He has been staying over there for almost 2 weeks now, and on Fri my mom droped him off for the weekend because I didnt have to work or go to school. She picks him up tomorrow morning and I am devestated. I cant picture being without him for one more day.. I am actually scared. I love him soo much. I know me quitting work and school would be stupid, right??? My moms has been so great, helping me out and all. But, whats a girl to do?? How do I calm myself down? I should be happy that I can get a break from my son, because some women dont get that opprotunity, right?? I am lost and need some help coping with this? Please Help.
Emily.
2007-09-23 18:35:24 · 16 answers · asked by Emily W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You just need to remember that you are trying to finish school so you can give your son a better life than you can give him with no education. Do you and your mom both have computers? If so invest in a couple of web cams so you can see your son during the times he cannot be with you, and you can talk to him.
MAGGIE: There are enough women on public assistance. EMILY: Good for you for not becoming a statistic!
2007-09-23 18:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
remind yourself that you are going to school to get a better career so you can take care of the child you love so much. Did you know that moms in the military have had to leave their babys at home with dad or other family and go out to sea or off to war? There is no weekend homecomings and birthdays/holidays often go missed.You are a great mommy and are going to be ok. you are just having a rough time right now. If this is making you so depressed its affecting work and school you should see your doctor. I hope you feel better.
I am a stay at home mom and find it very difficult to leave my kids even overnight so I can only imagine how hard this is on you. Hang in there.
2007-09-24 01:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Panda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie my heart breaks for you. Why don't you confide in your mum that's what she's there for and tell her how you feel.
Sometimes just talking about how you feel makes you feel better.
Don't quit school you have worked too hard to get where you are now and it will be worth it for both you and your son in the long run.
When your son is with his grandma maybe you could call him on speaker phone or if you both have a computer use the web cam.
My daughter who is also 19 and has a 8 month old daughter suggested making up a storybook with lots of photos of the both of you and your mum could read it to him every night while he is with her.
You're a very special girl for wanting to make a better life for your family. Your mum is wonderful for helping you out you're a lucky daughter!!
Best of luck with your studies and you and your sons future looks rosy to me!!!
Have a magic day!
2007-09-24 01:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy pirate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im a young mom of a 6 month old. I am also working full time and going to school full time... I Put an ad in the paper for a babysitter/ daycare and interviewed everyone that i thought was good. I now have the BEST babysitter i could have ever hoped for at a good rate! It costs a little bit each week, but it is sure worth it to be able to see him everyday, i dont know how you do it not seeing him for weeks on end....whatever you do DO NOT quit school, it will benefit in the long run.
2007-09-24 01:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by ~So much FUN~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just keep reminding yourself you are doing what is best for your son right now. Being a good parent is hard at times! Good daycare is hard to find and you certainly don't want him with someone who may abuse him. If you could find school closer to mom that would help but if not you just have to tough it out for the time being. Make the most of your weekends with him and put out lots of pictures. Ask God to work it out and give you strength. You will be amazed how He can help you.
2007-09-24 01:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Great Grandma 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try hooking up your mom's house with an internet and webcam so that you can view your child anytime you want. I also went under the same ordeal with my child. My husband and I were both working and household help was just so hard to find. So we agreed to leave our baby with my in laws and visit her every weekends. It's also a 2-hr.-drive everytime but it pays to see her jump up and down every time she sees us. She's 5 years old now and she's leaving with us already for almost 2 years. It's really not that bad. Sure you will miss your baby but it's not really like you wont be seeing him anymore. I know how you feel because I have also spent countless nights crying because I miss my child but I have to work and I'm doing it for her.
Lighten up, girl! Quit worrying about being away from him. Afterall, he's in good hands.
2007-09-24 03:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Eileen Mae P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there, Emily. You're doing what's right for you and your son. As hard as it is to be apart from your son, consider yourself very lucky that you have such a great mom who is willing to help you out so much. I'm sure that you miss your son every minute that he's not around, but by going to school, you're giving your son a better life. See him as much as you can for now, stay in school, and do the best you can. If you and your mom both have computers, maybe you could try using webcams to see your son. Or, if your mom doesn't work, maybe she could come stay with you for a few days at a time while you are in school. As tough as it is, just do the best you can. Take it one day at a time and focus on how much better your son's life will be once you're done with school.
2007-09-24 01:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have an almost 6 month old and it kills me when I have to leave him to go to work for an 8 hour shift, so I could not even imagine leaving him for weeks at a time. However, you are doing the best thing for you and him as you are bettering yourself and it is only temporary before you will be able to have him every day. Also, you could use a web cam to see him every day.
2007-09-24 02:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be very controversal and not what you want to hear, but your baby is in a very important bonding stage and really needs you right now. If this carries on you will find him bonding more with your Mom.. and that will be heart breaking to you!
I am not saying that your education is not a priority, and I do realize it is best for you and your babies future... but what kind of future will you have if you have lost those first few years of bonding?
I am a single mom with 2 kids... I have learned from experience- Your baby is 10 months old.. what happens when you missed his first steps... or phrase... or other little miracle? You can never get that back.. I missed my daughters first steps.. She is grown now and I will never get to experience that moment.
Just something to think about....
2007-09-24 06:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by think about that~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind you are doing this to provide your son a better life. Getting through school now means a better life for BOTH of you.
I know it's hard now, being separated from him, but imagine how much harder it will be in the future for both of you if you do not have a good job to take care of him.
Just keep reminding yourself WHY you're doing this and you will get through it.
2007-09-24 02:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by Arwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋