2007-09-23 18:32:32 · 10 answers · asked by Alex N 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If there is no possible way for the wife to concieve, then the only choices (other then adoption) would be to work with a surrogate, or not have children at all.
Also, as an adoptive mother, I understand that adoption is not for everyone, and not everyone would make good parents for a child who was adopted, but we do consider our children to be "our own".
2007-09-23 18:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Angela R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Surrogate is an option, but I really suggest that the husband do some serious introspection first. Hiring a surrogate is VERY costly and requires a HUGE amount of trust. Adoption may not have been the husband's first choice, but we all just have to play the cards that we're dealt. There are some wonderful kids out there that would love to put up with you.
PS - I hate to argue semantics here, but an adopted child would still be your "own".
2007-09-24 01:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I guess he will have to get over it!!!! He married her for better or worse. He has 2 choices, get a divorce & marry someone who can have kids or stay with his unfertile wife & either adopt or don't have kids.
2007-09-25 15:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by samira 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question would be why not adopt?? Will husband seek another women and leave current wife for his own reason for feeling an adopted child isn't good enough??
2007-09-24 01:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Justwondering2007 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Discuss having a surrogate. That is, you and your wife choose and hire a woman who will be implanted with your sperm, she carries the baby to term if all goes well, and upon delivery the baby is yours. Make sure you involve a lawyer in this and your wife will have to adopt the baby because without all the proper paperwork, your surrogate is the legal and biological mother of that baby.
2007-09-24 01:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Isn't there something in marriage vows that talks about better or worse, sickness and health?
No, I don't think it's a good idea to leave your spouse because of an issue that was known about before marriage.
If you ask me, the only solution open to the both of you is to remain childless. There's really no 'middle ground' to having a child.
2007-09-24 08:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you adopt, you will be surprised how fast that child will become your own. I hope you're not fishing for rationizations to dump your wife for a more fertile one.
2007-09-24 13:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by bagalagalaga 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy but you did marry her....for better or worse. You can explore fertility options or hire a surrogate but the bottom line is you need to work something out together and through no fault of her own you might not get your way. deal with it
2007-09-24 02:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by coolmommy 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Marry another woman who can give you children while staying married to your first wife. Or adopt.
2007-09-24 15:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
first off it is infertile.... anyway, they could use a surrogate mother to carry the child that way it will be related to the father in a biological sense perhaps like the mother's sister or something.
2007-09-24 01:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Rizzel 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋