Ok i dated this guy and we kissed on the first date. Now he just wants to be friends cuz he feels that he cant have a normal conversation with me. I suffer from clinical depression and doctors' diagnosis was chemical inbalance in the brain. I tend to behave like a maniac at times...which is way beyond my control. I told him that but he doesnt seem to understand. He said,"i feel that maybe you felt that somethings are different now after we went out that day, which is totally justified, but honestly things might be moving too fast. it's takes quite a bit of energy for me to be able to talk to you, i can't seem to have a normal conversation with you. i'm not saying this because i like submissive women, not at all. i would love us to be friends, i dun wanna cut off hot people from my life". You think he led me on?
2007-09-23 18:24:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, I know your problem, my son suffers from clinical depression and loses his temper very quick. We have to watch what we say and how we say things to him otherwise we might ignite an eruption of hurtful words. We understand that we have to be very patient with him and give him a lot of tlc, which is what you need as well. Medication does help him and he is stabilising I feel. Perhaps you should talk to your Dr. and ask if he can prescribe something to calm you down a bit. Perhaps your boyfriend has no idea or experience of how to handle your moods and it can be scary for someone who has no idea of this situation of yours. I do feel tho that if you try and stay on medication for a while, you'll feel better for it. Take care and I'm sure Mr. right will come along for you soon.
2007-09-23 19:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by BFCP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has express himself to you, and that is how he feels. You can't change how he thinks. Forget about him and go on in your life. Life is full of all kinds of people, this one was not the right one for you.
Don't close your heart for love, take time to meet others, and you will see that there is someone out there for everyone. Make sure you explain the next person your medical problem. If the guy is a real man, he will understand you.
Good Luck, stay sweat.
2007-09-24 01:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by Esther 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Mice
My heart goes out for you and i can feel your pain. Most guys cant handle everyday things no less tuff siturations. Depression is hard to deal with for you and topped with a dose of acting like a maniac cna push the best guys far away. I am sorry to say he lied and most likely cant deal with what you told him. Let it go and relax and dont be so hard on you> Someday you will find what you need and one thing you should do is follow your meds and take them
2007-09-24 08:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he found out that your clinical depression is more than he can handle. It's going to take a special person to be able to deal with that. I know; my gf has the same diagnosis and it's really tough sometimes.
2007-09-24 02:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to you. Its not your fault, nor his. You should talk to your doctor about balancing your meds so that you so don't have so many highs and lows. Try to get to know someone for a longer period of time (not the first date) before you tell them about your mental illness. I think you scared him away. Definitely consult your doctor soon, you shouldn't have to live this way.
2007-09-24 12:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound heartless -- he is just being honest. He is not strong enough to handle a relationship with someone like you, that's all.
At least he was honest with you up front, instead of lying to you and then cheating on you later. He sounds like a good guy.
2007-09-24 01:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Randy G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"I dont wanna cut hot Pll off from my life??" seriusly he said that jeez what a mindless little boy eh dont waste your time on him. No not all men are hreatless i think imature would be a better use of words. Go find yourself someone worth while
2007-09-24 05:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure why some men behave the way they do? but the times are changing slowly.
2007-09-24 04:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason that some of you women out there heartless creatures.
2007-09-24 01:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by jhollarules 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
not all the guys or boy are bad ok there are many good people in this world
2007-09-25 02:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Krishna A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋