The thing is, i'm not crazy about my current bf, but he treats me like a queen, and its always better to be with someone who loves you more than you love them right?
But i got out of 3 yr r/s just to jump into another serious r/s (current), so you can say i wanna have fun, and explore my options.
So comes along this man, who is hot, smart and relatively successful, and i know he's never going to fall for me, cos he's like 13 yrs older n to him, i must be just some girl he can take advantage of. But still, i'm tempted. To try something out with him perhaps?
But i've never done sth like this before (having a sexual r/s knowing the guy's not in love with me) and am afraid i'll either fall for him, or feel disgusted with myself after doing it.
What should i do? i feel like i'm losing my mind.
2007-09-23 17:51:53 · 26 answers · asked by psychedelico 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's 100% normal to be tempted. You can look, but don't touch. I am a little concerned that you aren't crazy about your bf and think he loves you more than you love him. Bottom line: It sounds like you are ready to move on and be single. The number one rule....never cheat. If you want to get out there fine, but break up then go explore. Is it really worth breaking someone's heart?
2007-09-23 17:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're just looking for a way out of your current relationship, but since you don't have any more of a valid reason than "I'm not that in to you" your trying to find something that will sabotage the relationship. You obviously want out, so just do it, break the poor guy's heart, but give him the due respect of doing it before you cheat on him. You'll only add insult to injury if you end the relationship through an affair. Once you're free, you can explore your attraction to this other guy without your guilt making things confusing.
2007-09-23 18:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Aileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just lost the excitement in your relationship. If you do not return your current bf's love, then you are cheating him out of ever having someone that will love him completely. I have a feeling that you would be thinking differrently if he started seeing other people. I suggest that you try to spark up your current relationship. Getting involved with this older guy could be a bad idea!! Those guys make you feel like sh#t once they have had you. It's a conquer thing with them. You wil feel used and dirty more than likely.
2007-09-23 18:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so if u go for the hottie, urll have some amazing fling for a few wks. itll be all physical stuff n u prolly wont even get very emmotionally intimate...but if u keep the guy who loves u urll be treated like a queen, as u said. he'll stay with u through thick and thin, n ya sure he may not be as hot, but he has the luv baby!
2007-09-23 17:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, I doubt you will fall for this older guy. Go ahead and try him out. If you still want to keep your current bf, then do it secretly. Having an affair is nothing glamorous, nonthing great, trust me.
You seems to have it easy when comes to relationshiops. No shortage of men. But don't push it. You probably will come to know who is good and bad.
2007-09-23 20:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is human nature to want what we cannot have. And to not want what we can have so easily. Ask yourself this. If you loose your boyfriend, who seems to be genuinely good for you, will you, in the end, be saying to yourself, "Was it worth it?" In other words, you say it yourself. You might fall for him (which there is no gaurantee that this "hot-older-guy" will fall for you also) or you might end up feeling trashy. Is the juice worth the sqeeze?
You always never know what you have until you loose it. Find out for youself, or take it as a given. Your choice.
2007-09-23 18:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEEP the guy you have and try to like him more. The other guy is obviously not for you. You have a guy that treats you like a queen and you want to throw that away and go out with some hippy?! NO.
2007-09-23 17:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by SmilE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just leave the relationship and be single for a while. Then you can just go out and explore your sexuality before you settle down. I feel that would be good for you.
2007-09-23 17:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't fall into temptation with that older guy. You will regret it. If your boyfriend is so good to you, you better open your eyes and realize it. Guys like him are sooo hard to find. Appreciate what you've got and don't take him for granted.
2007-09-23 18:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mortisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with the good guy instead of doing something like falling for a guy who just sleeps with you who doesn't feel the same way, at least the good guy treats you right rather than the other guy....
2007-09-23 18:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋