So last night I got absolutely sh!tfaced and woke up naked on the bathroom floor (yeah, i know) After some investigating I found out that I lost my virginity to a guy I know at the party. I feel like such a sl*t and I would really feel better if me and this guy started a relationship but I don't know how to let him know I'm interested without freaking him out. Should I tell him that was my first time? I just don't want him to be like "Oh great I screwed this chick and now she thinks we're in love or something." Should I ask him to lunch or something or just wait and see if he makes a move?
2007-09-23 17:42:29 · 27 answers · asked by c-lion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But do you really want a relationship with a guy who raped you?
Learn from your mistake and move on
2007-09-23 17:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, ask yourself if you want a relationship with this guy because you REALLY dig him or simply because you think its the right thing to do since you lost your virginity to him.... Would you be feeling this way had you not lost your virginity to him?
Hun, don't feel bad about it. It's a lesson learned... You need to be careful with sh*t like getting piss drunk at parties, you could end up in serious trouble, and losing your virginity to some bloke on the bathroom floor could be the least of your worries.
2007-09-23 17:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Pretty Woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, I know people here talk about losing their virginity but this is sorta a waste if you was to drunk to remember losing a precious gift like that. I mean you got like one chance and you blew it, shame...
Sorry to break the bad news but if a guy likes a girl he probably want leave her in the floor naked.... Plus do you think he couldn't tell you was a virgin? It probably wouldn't freak him out to ask him to lunch... What you got to loose, a douche bag who left you hanging?
2007-09-23 17:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do u know that guy??? i dont think so he will come with u for lunch or talk with u bcoz he wanted have sex with u that's it if he loves u why he would leave in bathroom floor so better not to be in touch with the guy it can happen another time again he can blackmail for that so pls what happened last night forget and continue with ur life pls take care dear
2007-09-23 17:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was interested in a relationship, he wouldn't have had sex with you that drunk, and he wouldn't have left you alone, naked, on a bathroom floor. He had his fun, and that's the end of it.
The best you can do at this point is chalk it up to a bitter learning experience, and vow not to repeat these mistakes.
2007-09-23 17:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ;ast part of the question is right. Tohim it was most likely a one night stand. Otherwise, you wouldn't have woken up in the bathroom naked if he cared about you. Just let it go. You deserve someone better than that. Don't throw yourself at him. He won't love or respect you at all.
2007-09-24 10:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want a relationship with this guy or is your guilt over loosing your virginity in such an impersonal way that is hanging over you?
2007-09-23 17:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, the only reason that you want to start a relationship with this guy is because you got drunk and slept with him?
Bad idea.
If you made a mistake, forgive yourself, get over it, and resolve to do better next time.
Don't date someone just out of guilt. I think that you will regret it.
2007-09-23 17:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait to see if he makes the next move, to see if he is interested himself. You seem to show regret and I don't believe that would be a good start to any relationship. You gave your virginity in a situation that you didn't anticipate, it doesn't mean you gave your heart to that guy. I don't believe that one should count against you:)
2007-09-26 17:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sirius70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just get over it and move on...feel lucky your not pregnant...now a days losing it is not a big thing...guys usually take things for granted...if they see it they'll grab it...wihtout even thinking what the consequences are...dont confront him...he might make you feel humiliated if you do that...like what you said...wait...if ever he wants to talk to you because of what happened then talk...dont trash talk him...even if hes drunk,he still know what happened between you...just hope your the only person who knows what happened...worst if he told someone...think about it now and get over it...now you know,its bad getting drunk at a party...
2007-09-23 17:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by pot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! see this is why I don't drink at all. Whats the point in it, you cant think clearly with alcohol in your system. at least you didn't drive drunk and get hurt or hurt someone else. you should have been a little more responsible with the alcohol. well maybe you can learn from this mistake.
2007-09-23 17:55:02 · answer #11 · answered by oobichan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋