What do I tell them, and what do I not?

Question

I made an appt. with my psyhologist or whatever she is. I currently have depression and not being treated for it. The last couple months have been the worst. I have been feeling very suicidal and I cannot concentrate on anything. I'm failing all my tests and can't remember anything. This year is my most important and I can't get my self to do homework because I get so depressed. I really want to get on medication, but if I tell the lady person that I've been feeling really suicidal will she tell my parents and will she send me to a hospital? I really cannot go to a hospital, I want to though. I have so much going on in my daily life that its hard to even think.

I can't miss school for "hospitalization". I've missed so much from being so depressed.

So what if I tell her I'm feeling very suicidal but I'm not going to harm myself?

Answer 1

You definitely need to tell her everything. She can't help you if you're not up front about everything. I have been in the hospital and it was the best thing for me. I had started cutting and was suicidal. I was only there for 4 days, but it helped alot. Please be honest with your therapist... it's for your own good.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are pretty overwhelmed right now and could use some extra help. It's good that you have a psychologist you can talk to, but she'll be able to help you better if you tell her the truth. Just like any other doctor, the more information you give her, the more likely she will be able to help.

She may suggest telling your parents or may even suggest a hospital but she can't or won't force the issue unless she feels that you are a danger to yourself or others. Thinking about suicide isn't necessarily the same thing as being suicidal.

You want some help, otherwise you wouldn't be writing here. Give your doctor the information she needs to best be able to help you.

And, based on personal experience, a hospital stay isn't the worst thing that could happen. Maybe you need to take a break of from school to get yourself back on track. If you do that, don't forget to apply for a medical withdrawal ... that way, it won't effect your grades and you might even get your money back.

Answer 3

First, you should tell this dr. or atleast someone that you trust. I had very bad depression and anxiety when I was in high school as well. It got so bad for me that I didn't leave my house. I eventually broke down to my guidance counselor at the time and told her how I felt. I went for 3 weeks into an adolescent day program for people who were severely depressed, anxious, or manic depressive. For 3 weeks, I missed school and instead went to this program from 9-3. The program helped a little, but the people I met there helped A TON! Not only did I really connect with the other "kids" my age, but they set me up with a psychologist and psychiatrist that specialized in exactly what I was going through and it all turned out OK. I learned lots of coping skills, and since then, I have had my good times and my bad times- I have been on and off meds (am currently off), but I know when times get tough, and I need to start again, that I can and every thing will be alright. Perhaps you could look into something like this. You could even go to your local emergency room and as long as they know youre not an immediate threat to yourself, they wont put you in "lock down" or confide in a parent and have them call some mental health hospitals in your area. Its not as bad as it seems-- you just don't know that yet- and that's ok. Goodluck!

Answer 4

I've felt that way....but the right medication can bring you out of this. (and it'll feel SO GOOD not to hurt !!) If what they give you doesn't help...there's plenty more where that came from. Keep changing medication till you find something that makes you feel normal. If the dr. won't do that...find another dr. who will. You know...if I get a cut etc. and put neosporin on it....it gets worse...because it doesn't work for me. I'm either allergic to it...or it has no effect. Same with anti depressants....if one kind doesn't work...or if it makes you worse...try another kind., Sometimes it takes a while to find what's right for you. I don't think they'd put you in a hospital unless you tried suicide ..or said you are going to. Tell them you just want something for depression. I think most people have thought about it...what's bad is when you dwell on it and start to plan it. I take risperdal half mg. for panic attacks...but it might help you too...it helps my head too. Maybe if your teachers knew what you were going thru..they'd take that into consideration. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Okay, here it is... First, you are very courageous to admit how you are feeling. Tell your therapist or whoever she is that you are having suicidal thoughts. She will know what to ask you to learn how high your risk is. And why are you not being treated for depression??? It can save your life, improve your life, and help you to feel so much better. I'm betting that the therapist (when you tell her of your suicidal thoughts) will see that you get on a medication that will help withing a couple of weeks. So what if she tells your parents? If your mom was suicidal wouldn't you want her to tell you? Don't keep these secrets. There is a suicide in this country every fifteen minutes. Don't you be one of them. Please do your part to get well.

Answer 6

You want to go to a hospital?

Anyways, when you get to the office for your appointment, probably the first thing you will do before you even see the doctor is fill out a form, with a questionaire on it. One of the questions on the piece of paper will ask you if you've ever thought about suicide. You will have to answer yes or no. The doctor will read what you put on all your answers and that will help drive the discussion.
If you put yes, he/she will ask you more about it.
If you put no, then it might not even come up, unless you bring it up. They will take it very serious if you say yes, either on the form, or when you talk to them. They need to take it seriously, because you need help.

Answer 7

I would tell her everything. She cannot tell your parents anything except make a recomendation that you go to the hospital.

If you do go to the hospital you will get a toutor or they have a teacher come in and teach you what you need.

Hospitals aren't that bad. I actualy like going there when I feel as bad as you do because I leave feeling better then when I came.

So you've got nothing to worry about.

I wish you the best in all you do.

Answer 8

Agreed. If you are suffering, then waiting only makes the problem worse. When I was seventeen, I almost went through with it, but I just couldn't. Thankfully I came out of my depression. Looking back, I should have said something because I came so close. If you are in a place where you don't know what to do or you can't carry on, the please get help. Don't think about the consequences of speaking up because not voicing your feelings is worse.

Answer 9

First, what is said in counseling is confidential. That means if you share your feelings with her, she is obligated to keep it between the two of you. The only time this does not apply is if you tell her that you are going to hurt yourself or someone else. If you are seriously considering harming yourself, then you need serious intervention which may include hospitalization. There is nothing wrong with needing help. The problem arises when you need help and you dont take it.

Answer 10

YOU SHOULD BE HONEST WITH YOUR THERAPIST. YOU HAVE HAD SUICIDAL THOUGHTS BUT HAVEN'T ACTED OUT ON THEM. YOUR THERAPIST WON'T RECOMMEND INPATIENT CARE UNLESS IT IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. SHE WILL PROBABLY ENCOURAGE YOU TO STAY HARD AT WORK AND IN SCHOOL BUT WITH ADDED SUPPORT (CHANGE IN MEDS, GROUP THERAPY, ETC.). DON'T LET THIS OVERWHELM YOU - REMEMBER, FELLING LIKE YOU ARE OVERWHELMED IS ONE OF THE SYMPTOMS AND YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS OK. GOOD LUCK.