I'm almost 16 and I've still haven't had my first kiss. I just think it's so unbelievable pathetic that I've haven't had a guy show the least bit of interest in me since sixth grade. Now I'm in tenth and I hear all the other girls talking about having sex and their great boyfriends and going to parties. I just try to fill up my free time with extracirrculersa and I study a lot but that doesn't make me feel any better. I try to tell myself it will be betters in a few years. These other girls will end up with ten screaming kids working at walmart and on welfare by 30. I'll end up a lawyer or something and meet a nice guy in college and only end up with two or three prefectly behaved kids. It doesn't make me feel any better. Yeah, I'm a virgin and I'm in 10th grade and I know I shouldn't be worring or thinking about all this, but I still feel really enviouis of the other girls. No boy ever pays attention to me, they never even ask me out. Honestly, how pathetic do you think I am?
2007-09-23 16:37:31 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I don't think you're pathetic, and I'm not just saying that.
I'm right around your age and I'm somewhat in the same situation you're in.
I've been only kissed by girls I don't like, so we're both in the same boat.
My advice is, try to be more outgoing- give a compliment to a guy you like everyday. Start random conversation, speak your mind etc.
And don't think the "it's going to be better in a few years" stuff.
I used to think the same thing.
You're right, you probably will be good in the next few years, but you can most definitely be good now too.
carpe' diem- and you should get what you're looking for.
2007-09-23 16:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by thats it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to talk to a neutral party face to face. A school counselor might be a good choice. 10th grade is an awkward time, as boys really aren't too confident in themselves.
Nonetheless, you need to have something to work on/toward to help this situation, depending on the circumstances. Telling yourself various excuses, etc., is somewhat of a defeating activity, morale-wise.
Best wishes.
2007-09-23 16:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by ohenry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first kiss at 15, and i was terrified! You're not a loner, I'm sure other girls in your class haven't yet either. If you compare yourself to others now, you'll be doing it for the rest of your life, and you'll never be happy. So stop making comparisons, everyone has their first kiss at different times, just like everyone goes through puberty at different times. It'll happen when it's meant to happen. In the meantime, practice on your hand or in the mirror!
2007-09-23 16:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are pathetic at all. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. It is normal to be feeling like this. I know I did when I was a teenager. A guy will come along when you least expect it. Hopes this helps.
2007-09-23 16:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by bookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that big a deal no you are no pathetic... you are somebody most girls are probabaly envious of because you don't have as much of the hich school drama in your life and you are correct you will have a MUCH better likf than these girls. Hope this gives you a bit more confidence in your self Brittany
2007-09-23 16:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will recreate the "snow" scene interior the Breakfast club . i will produce extra methane gas than the known dairy farm. i will choose for 3 days with out brushing my enamel. i will flip a 60 minute guy right into a fifty 9 2d guy. And my maximum pathetic potential as much as now: i will make issues worse via apologizing.
2017-01-02 14:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety, my best friend didnt get her first kiss until she was 18! And having a relationship isnt all about sex
2007-09-23 16:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I'm ten years older and same situation. I win!
2007-09-23 16:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by saralizzy1981 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋