My brother and his wife and her 23 year old pregnant daughter and HER 4 year old daughter moved in with my husband and our 5 children about a month ago.
Everything was alright when it was just my brother and even when his step-daughter and her 4 year old moved in, but when my sister-in-law came...things went south. She would tell me these ridiculous stories that were out and out lies (because she couldn't remember the lie she had told the 1st time) she would wear my things without asking, and the 4year old (her grand daughter) would pretty much do whatever and when I would tell her no she would basically tell me that "she only minded her grandma", and when I would tell her grandma, she'd pretty much laugh.
So needless to say I was a little frusterated by the situation and I was using another forum similar to this one to vent and because I copy and pasted...she accidentally read it while pasting something of her own.
2007-09-23 16:32:11 · 12 answers · asked by kristilkleer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So, I'm not really sorry she saw what I wrote which was pretty harmless saying that I was tired of her ridiculous stories, but she stormed out with her daughter and grand daughter and my brother stayed because he just got a job here, and he's sad. She later called him and he said it didn't go well but he offered no details.
I think she just didn't want to get a job because she wants to stay home with her new grand baby (due at the end of this week) and she's using this as an excuse ...sort of.
Either way...what can I do to make it up to my brother who feels torn? He's loves her even though I think she's a pathological liar and way pretentious.
2007-09-23 16:35:00 · update #1
Sorry but it seems like she is the one who owes the apology not you. When someone moves into your home they should go out of their way to help you out in every way...........when she read what you wrote she should have told you she was sorry and would try harder not make you feel guilty.
2007-09-23 16:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good that this came out. Just why does your brother and his entire family think it's ok to crash at your house and impose on you and your family? They are rude, and take advantage and then when she reads the post you left by accident has the nerve to feel disrespected.
You are the one who is being disrespected by her and the four year old and even your brother who should have made them behave in your home.
Sorry, but I hope she stays out and that your brother finds another place to crash soon. You are not a doormat so stop acting like you are guilty of something.
Good luck,
2007-09-23 23:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by TERI Sexton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is a manipulating, lying, pushy, overbearing person--you have no need to apologize or disrupt your homelife anymore. Your brother and his family need to get out--stay out and he needs to make his own arrangements--millions of people do it. You have no law that says you owe him or his family, ANYTHING. Next time establish ground rules before anyone steps into YOUR home..... tough luck for them. I am glad she found whatever she read--she needs a dose of reality....and so does your brother--give him a week or two to make other arrangements.... he is a big boy--he will be just fine.
2007-09-23 23:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would boot Her out of your house, Your house. you do not have to put up with any crap from somebody that moved into your house, without any discussion. I wouldn't have my kids around someone who disrespects you and your family. I would boot the sister in law out. You owe her nothing. She disrespects you in front of your kids, and i would not stand for that. If your brother wants to live in your house that's fine But A woman that is in your home and not following your rules kick Her *** out , and save the aggravation
2007-09-23 23:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels to fell disrespected in your own home. I'm sorry your brother needs to know that that is your house so its your rules. Why would anyone want a liar in there home. Besides i know you are trying to help but you need to tell them respect you or get there own place.
2007-09-23 23:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by lyric19_86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the only way things wont be awkward between the two of you is for you to talk to her about it. This might have been a good thing for you! Would you have brought up the issuses you have with her on your own?
2007-09-23 23:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by knicto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She accidentally read something that you were too afraid to verbalize.
So now the truth is out.
Maybe in the end that will be a good thing for everyone involved.
2007-09-23 23:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother I am sure, has had similar issues with her. I would talk to him about it, and the two of you could make a plan as to where to go from here with her.
2007-09-23 23:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get caught up in other people's issues. Your sister-in-law is responsible for her own actions. You have nothing to make up for. Adults are responsible for themselves. You are entitled to your opinion and if she took offence that was her choice. It is up to your brother to sort out his own family not up to you. Leave it alone.
2007-09-23 23:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pure Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't this your house? Let them decide what they need to do, and stay out of it. Next time, don't be so generous, it will always come back to bite you.
2007-09-24 00:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋