I feel overwhelmed by everything. Its only 3 weeks into school and im failing three classes. My dad wont let me go live with my mom. And he has a new girlfriend that I like but I feel like shes trying to be the mother "figure" and I dont want her to be because I want MY mom! And I know shes just trying to help......
My brother is never home anymore even though hes only 17....and we used to be really close.
I still like my ex......but I dont know if he still likes me
and when things do seem to go right, it just seems to crash and burn in the end.
And all I want is for things to be normal. But at the moment with all this crap happening it seems impossible.
And im ready to give up if it doesnt get better soon...
I just want some advice......something to make me feel better about everything
I hate being a teenager
2007-09-23 15:59:22 · 6 answers · asked by mcrgirl94 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hate crying.
2007-09-23 16:09:26 · update #1
Okay... step back and try to be objective. You can't possibly be failing after only 3 weeks... why? Are you just not able to pay attention?
Being a teenager is NEVER easy. Even the so-called popular kids have their hang-ups. You are literally stuck between being a kid and being a grownup. You have no rights until you hit age 18, but you have to comport yourself as a mature person. It is hard to know where the boundaries are because the markers keep shifting.
It is never easy going through a divorce. You just can't let it derail you. You may not be old enough to call the shots on which parent you will live with. You can call and check with the family courts for that information.
It is possible that your mom needs a little down-time after this divorce to retool and reestablish herself. Sometimes not having to take care of other people can free a person up to get more done. She is doing a lot of self-work right now.
No, there is no way that your dad's GF is going to ever replace your mom, and nobody expects that, but you can take advantage of the situation. I'm willing to bet that the GF is more than willing to take you shopping and try to buy her way into your good graces. Think about all the possibilities that having 2 birthdays and 2 Christmases can offer as each of your parents settle into their respective grooves. It will get better.
Go to your school's guidance counselor and ask for help. See if you can get tutoring. If your school doesn't offer tutoring, see if your dad can get you into something like Kumon to teach you some fast-study skills.
2007-09-23 16:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. These are very important and good things you're talking about.
All I can say is Never Give Up!!!! Stay strong and grow from the trials you get in life. Sometimes when you have this attitude, you'll cry a lot. That's OK. Just never give up!
How old are you? If you want, send me an e-mail and I can give you some more specific advice...if not, the same still applies: Never give up!
It is really cheesy, but count all the good things you have in life one by one. What are you glad you have? (...Don't say "nothing"...that's giving up...find something! :o)
You have more talent and potential than you'll realize until you're much older. Don't give up: make something good come out of everything.
2007-09-23 16:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Chris B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really tough being a teen. I know. I was one when we still had to get up and walk across the room the change the channel on the TV.
Cell phones didn't exist and computers took up giant rooms.
The beauty of it all is that one day you finally grow up. Life is complicated and at times really difficult.
You're trying to communicate your identity and all the adults don't have the communication skills or the ability to deal with it.
If you take the time to talk to someone and be understanding if they don't tell you what you want to hear, you might discover that it feels good to get it off of your chest.
As for your ex, I want you to understand that you can't go back to the past, only forward. I don't think it's healthy to pursue a relationship with someone when it already has a track record of failure.
Good luck to you
and try to talk with a school counselor about some of this.
2007-09-23 16:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a teenager is tough, as I seem to recall - it's been a long time. Believe it or not, it does get better. Make sure you have good supports ... friends who will listen (not friends who try to give you advice or try to fix things - just listen). I agree with Marty on this one; see a school counsellor.
2007-09-23 16:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by sheltie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate being a teen too it seems everything around you that is bad pops out and nothing good pops out but my friends are really a big help my really close friend is like one of the few people I would ever open up to
2007-09-23 16:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by robokiss4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. as bad as it is now things will get better. i never believed people who told me that but it's true.
2007-09-23 16:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by emillie♥amber. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋