How do you know when you're in love? How do you know if God approves? Is dating someone wrong unless you're going to marry that person? Are fights and arguments normal in a relationship? Is that what makes a relationship stronger?
Please help me.
References to Bible verses would be helpful. Thank you.
2007-09-23 15:30:38 · 16 answers · asked by emily. 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hi,
Wow, what a loaded question!
How do you know when you're in love? Well, love is an incredibly strong feeling for someone. The other person becomes the most important person in your life. You compromise for this person, do whatever you can for this person, support this person with prayer, encouragements, words, etc.
God's approval? Well, you pray a lot about it. You should see His direct involvement in bringing you together with this other person. Also, talk with your parents, pastor, or other Christian elders who know you and the other person. They can offer good opinions on your relationship and if this is something that you should be involved in. If they are all against it, and you are "hoping" this is it, then its probably not.
Dating? Well, what is the purpose of dating? I believe that the purpose of dating is to find your husband or wife for marriage. So, you shouldn't date unless you are really looking for that one person. Some argue that the purpose of dating is to find the type of person you are wanting to marry. I don't buy this argument. I think you can be intelligent enough to know that you don't want to marry a jerk, you want someone who likes your music, who enjoys your favorite movie, etc. I think if you start dating someone, and then realize things will not work out, then you should break up. Yes, it may hurt and it may not be what you want, but why continue something that is pointless?
Fights and arguments? Yes, it is normal. Any relationship is made up of two people from different backgrounds, who grew up in different families and they have different personalities. Its normal. What a strong relationship has is the ability to not fight for the sake of fighting or winning the argument. Strong relationships also choose the arguments that are worth fighting. Don't fight about who left the butter out on the counter - what's the point? Fight and argue only when necessary.
Strong relationships come from going through difficult decisions, tough situations, arguments, admitting your sorry, serving the other person, putting the other person ahead of you, taking time out to spend with the person, playing a game together, etc etc.
2007-09-23 15:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Aslade Averyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Christians are just as human as everyone else. God doesn't place any restrictions on falling in love with someone if that is what you are asking. We do have restrictions on sexual behavior which is only for marriage and this is to insure the proper bond exists between a man and a women and to insure the security of the children that could result from the relationship. And sure fights and arguments are a normal part of any relationship. I don't think that would automatically make a relationship stronger but it could if things are worked out properly.
Here is a website that seems to use a lot of biblical quotes. Note sure if I agree with the site because I haven't had enough time to read thru it. http://www.christianmarriage.com/
2007-09-23 15:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by mikearion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever worry about this question, "How do you know when you're in love?" You will know.
God is Love, so He approves. Love is not bodily love, lust.
If you date somebody you have no feelings for such as an attraction or adoration, then you are off track because that would not be God's will, but you must go on a first date sometimes to find out. If you feel in just a few minutes the date isn't great, it isn't and you will know how to handle it in a proper manner.
Fights and arguments never heal or make a bond stronger, but self-hypnosis would have one believe maybe it is so.
2007-09-23 15:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should be equally yolked. SO your core beliefs should be the same. If the person is not someone that you would want to marry then, you probably shouldn't be with them. Anytime I am seeking God's approval, I ask him. He answers in his own way,sometimes he answers me in dreams, sometimes, I find answers in his word. Sometimes, before I finish asking I know that I asked a stupid question. As far as fighting and arguing, does that make you happy. God wants you to be very happy in your relationships. God wants everything about a Christians life to bring glory to him. My husband and I never fight, we seldom disagree and we love each other very much and are very in love with each other. God brought my husband and I together, there is no doubt about that. You have to trust him to give you your perfect mate. I wrote a blog about this on my myspace.
Here is my url: http://www.myspace.com/teecox
it is the blog titled "Just Trust Him" read if you want to, it might bless you.
2007-09-23 15:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the christian life...love is still love...the kind of love that says, quite irrationaly, that you would die for this one you love. god will approve or not, but like the parent of a newly turend 18 year old, he cant do anything about it until we die, and even then so long as weve asked forgiveness and accepted christ hes stuck sulking in a croner about this unapproved love...and thats highly unlikely so i think that when it comes to things like approving of love...he couldnt give a high holy crap about it...its love and thats enough.
fights and arguements are normal in LIFE as a whole let alone relationships. a strong relationship is made by love...without it youre trying too hard.
even gay love is acceptable...and no im not talking about the sodomy committed by gay porn stars, or the constant lesbian nudity that playboy promotes...but the love...real LOVE between two men, or two women...sometimes this includes acts of sexual nature...but not for lusty pleasure..but instead for eternal love.
LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL, RACIALLY BLIND, AND NOT BASED ON GENDER.
~Nikolae Polyamiru, 366 BC,
Student to Aristotle, Companion to
Alexander de Phillipus, or
Alexander the Great
hope i helped
2007-09-23 15:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nikolae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*** it-2 p. 273 Love ***
A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a friend, for a parent or child, and so forth; warm fondness or liking for another; also, the benevolent affection of God for his creatures or the reverent affection due from them to God; also, the kindly affection properly expressed by God’s creatures toward one another; that strong or passionate affection for a person of the opposite sex that constitutes the emotional incentive to conjugal union. One of the synonyms for love is “devotion.”
Aside from those meanings, the Scriptures speak also of love guided by principle, as love of righteousness or even love for one’s enemies, for whom a person may not have affection. This facet or expression of love is an unselfish devotion to righteousness and a sincere concern for the lasting welfare of others, along with an active expression of this for their good.
2007-09-23 15:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by EBONY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use God's example of Love....
God shows His love for us in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us.
Love is a choice we make and cannot be based on feelings since feelings change constantly.
It is especially the job of the husband to decide to love no matter what. Even if your wife is totally gone sideways you are to hang in there just as God hangs in there with us. God will bless your life for sacrificial love.
Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Ephesians 5:28
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Finally, make sure that your potential mate is of the same spiritual mind as you.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
2007-09-23 15:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michael B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is not "force" in opposites, just choice. We are to control our thought and desires. Satan is constantly tempting us, take the easy pleasurable way, there is a war, we must preserve. We are in the image of God, meaning God has a body like us We should seek for truth. If we worship a toothpick it will not save us. There is no "God force" in evil it is Lucifer. Do not yell so much to make your points!!!
2016-04-05 22:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answers can be found by reading "Song of Solomon" (sometimes written as "Song of Songs." But it takes a lot of knowledge of the culture of that time to really understand it well.
But to really get your answer, stick to prayer and meditation... seek out God's will.
Sorry mate, it's a really difficult question to answer off the cuff.
2007-09-23 15:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by Peter B 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Perversion
2007-09-23 19:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋