When and Why? Immaturity?

Question

Ok so yesterday i hung out with this guy all day. Ive known him for about 4 years and we went out for awile. I see him once and week and we text each a little bit. Whenever i text him he seems really cool and hes nice to me and he compliments me A LOT. However whenever i see him, he usually hangs out with his friends (they're also my friends 2) but theyre all guys. When he does see them he is different. He starts being rude and disrespectful, and mean. He makes mean comments, talks about me, tuches my butt, and thinks that it is okay to hit me. I ask him to stop and he doesn't. So i just walk away from him. My question is why does he become so immature when hes around our frineds and then is so mature when hes not. Why does he have to change so much and think that he is so cool? Is this just typical and when does is stop? Why does he and his friends think that that is cool? Also were 13. any help would be nice, plz!

Answer 1

I hope you understand that there are BIG reasons why they do not sujest people get into relationships at your age, thats beyond the old maturity aurgement. The one your having problems with is the fact that it takes time before we form a strong enough understanding of ourselves to beable to stand with in a group independently, which I'm pretty sure you don't understand. Lets put it this way, when we get into groups we tend to have a group mentiality, which is that we loss ourselves to that group. Its a sign of ether a weak self-understanding or in your case, young age, not knowing any better. Well he get better? Chances are. Should you take it personal? No, its a matter of him being so young. So next time you feel yourself being betraied by him when he is with your friends, understand he is just trying to fit in, and this isn't the best time to hope for a relationship.....