I really was saddened to hear on th news that a girl I used to hang out with at work died in a wreck. I didn't know her family and her funeral happened to fall on the day of my son's birthday, so I did want to spend it with him, yet I wanted to say goodbye. So, I stopped in about 20 minutes, saw her *sobs*, signed her guestbook, had a big cry. I couldn't stay for the whole funeral, but I am glad I got to say goodbye.
2007-09-23 14:53:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How would that be rude? Funerals and wakes are for the living, not the dead. You showed your respects and signed the guestbook to let her family know that you cared. Don't worry! They're comforted by the fact that she had friends who cared and loved her.
2007-09-23 18:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by betternher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not rude at all to just go and get your goodbyes without staying for everything. That's the reason the wake is often a few hours long - so everyone can come and pay their respects when they can. Sorry to hear of your loss.
2007-09-23 22:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by raegal75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not rude to just go to the wake. You paid your respects by attending the memorial service. A lot of people go to the memorial service but skip the funeral for any number of reasons.
2007-09-23 23:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you did was perfectly fine. Her family will surely understand. You might want to send a very special sympathy card to a person in her family. Grams
2007-09-23 22:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's rude. You showed some effort. Mourning is for the living not the deceased. It's really up to you whether you go at all.
2007-09-23 22:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by 354gr 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is completely appropriate to only attend the wake. Paying your respects is the most important thing.
2007-09-23 21:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Funerals are for the living, not the dead. You did what you needed to do for yourself. I'm sure her family was happy that you attended and appreciated your support.
2007-09-23 22:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you were thoughtful and not rude at all.
2007-09-23 22:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋