what should i dop about a girl that did stuff with my boy friend before me and ppl keeps bringing it up? its really killing me.
2007-09-23 14:43:04 · 18 answers · asked by beautifuldisaster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You ask them if they think that the same thnk will happen with me as she did with the others
2007-09-23 14:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me. My boyfriend and his past girlfriend was the fav couple. Everyone thought they would make it. They didnt and when I came along, people wouldn't let it die. I was even partly scorned by some of these people. It was stupid. While in their presence I just said that they didn't know the real reasons behind the scenes and shouldn't keep bringing stuff up when its over, and has been over for more than 3 years!!!!! I also spoke to my boyfriend about what they said and how it made me feel, and I let him deal with them mostly. I think that's his job. He was happy to speak to them and let them know he didn't appreciate it and to stop it.
Eventually, everyone did, and they got to know me, and liked me even better than his previous girlfriend!! Now my boyfriend and I are preparing for marriage!!
I know it makes you feel bad. Put a small defence. Nothing too long, but leave most of that talking up to your boyfriend. Aside from all of that, you have to be confident in who you are, and what value you bring. Forget about the other girl. That's over, and he's with you now. Also, we all have a past, and unfortunately, you're surrounded by some immature people who can't understand that and let it go.
Find some new hang-out ppl too. No sense being around ppl who can't respect you.
2007-09-23 14:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boy friend. And just talk to the people and tell people to stop bringing it up. Dont just be like "stop f'n sayin that" cause then it comes off as jelous and rude. Try talking to the people one at a time or in small groups and bring it up calmy. Like be like " C'mom could we just forget about that and stop talking about it alrdy" and laugh a little. They will probably laugh to and stop cause they see its really bothering u.
2007-09-23 14:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have history. The key is not to repeat those mistakes. Should you listen to those people? No. You may want to keep in mind though that this guy has a "reputation" and if you have feelings for him, you need to tell him. It really isn't your problem what they did, it's what you do that matters.
2007-09-23 14:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to STFU and walk away. What happened before you is not part of your relationship now unless you make it so. If someone starts to bring it up turn and walk away. If it's a friend tell them to stop and don't bring it up again.
2007-09-23 14:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels undesirable so once you're pleased with the area now, permit her recognize which you forgive her. otherwise she's unlikely to resign. It relatively became a exceptionally crappy ingredient for her to do nonetheless.
2016-10-09 17:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it in the past, where it belongs. And tell people straight-out that you'd prefer they not bring up that stuff in your presence.
2007-09-23 14:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it is in the past and you don't want to hear about it. If she continues to do so don't be friends with her because she is not being one to you.
2007-09-23 14:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better talk to your boy friend about it.
2007-09-23 14:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with this person,and let them know how you feel and that it bothers you.
2007-09-23 14:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Babylove 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋