I have a 7 year old daughter and she has been acting weird recently. She had asked me if she could have a freind over, i said yes. I had walked in on the two, and they were both naked playing with themselves, how do i punish her?
2007-09-23 14:41:22 · 41 answers · asked by stringball92 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
What is the matter with you people? How does it become a question of punishing that 2 children plays with themselves, naked or not? You don`t even need to talk with her about it IT IS THE MOST NATURAL THING IN THE WORLD. Sexophobia has twisted peoples minds nowadays. Just give me one single argument for why children should not explore each other. Are they not humans, are they robots, or what?
2007-09-24 10:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by john c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of punishing, why not try to educate? If she got to this point is because curiosity kicked in. Well, I hate to say this, but maybe you could have been a little too permissive. When she asked to have a friend over, were you closely supervising? Why let them play in her bedroom without any adult supervision? Well, all that happened was just to alert you. I guess it's a normal curiosity in this age, but you as a parent must be able to control the way this is going, first of all by educating your daughter and explaining what is acceptable for a girl her age, etc. If you punish her (negative), she might just get the idea, from her early age, that sex is wrong. You don't want that to happen. You must leave doors open for communication. She must have a lot of questions in her little head, and you as a parent might want to slowly approach the subject, but always leaving her comfortable to talk about what goes on her head. It is better to learn the correct things with the parents at home than learning the "wrong, twisted things" with her peers. You cannot be too careful nowadays. Not too permissive but not too prohibitive. Communication is the key!
2007-09-23 14:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Bluemoon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all I would ask her what prompted that act, and have a heart to heart discussion about what is and isn't proper behavior, and what you expect. Kids sometimes get a little bit hazy with the privacy issue and unless the subject has been breached before don't know that the way that they are acting is inappropriate. Honestly it's a natural thing, it feels good and kids are very sensory based.
As long as it isn't a situation where she is emulating something that she has seen, or acting out due to another even more inappropriate situation then punishing her is taking away her ownership of her own body.
When it comes down to it you'll never know why she thought that was a good idea to do if you don't talk to her about it.
2007-09-23 14:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by wolfwoods01girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Punishing her for being el natural is maybe not the best choice. You may want to find out if there is a reason that she would rather play with her friend without clothes on as opposed to fully dressed. I think it is sort of normal and don't make it a bigger deal than it is. The last thing you want is to create a scene where your daughter is now wondering what is so "wrong" about it.
2007-09-23 14:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Team LaCroix's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think punishment is in order. I would first try to find out who started this game. If it was the other little girl I would not allow your daughter to play with her again, as I believe a 7 year old who knows about this kind of behavior has be taught that behavior and this kind of environment is not good for your daughter.
If your daughter started it, I would ask her why did she start this? And who showed it to her. Then I would keep her away from that person as well. Then apologize to the parents of the other little girl for the incident.
Next you need to explain to your daughter that this kind of thing is not acceptable behavior you will not allow her to play like that in your house any more and that she must keep her bedroom door open at all times. Just to be sure.
Children are naturally inquisitive, and with today's openness about sexuality it is easy for some children to see inappropriate material.
If you find your daughter doing this again, you need to take something she holds dear away from her, like time watching television for certain period of time.
But you need to show calmness about this, no extreme response that this is sinful or a horrible thing to do.... If the behavior continues you might want to talk to her pediatrician.
2007-09-23 14:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She must be your first child.
You dont punish her for something like that!!!
Kids do that. Dont deny that you more then likely did also.
She was just curious.
Still let the girl come over, but make sure they keep their bedroom door open.
But if this is a problem about homophobia, then NO, your daughter is just curious about other peoples bodies, this doesn't mean she is a god damn lesbian.
This is usually a sign for moms and dads to have the "sex talk" with their children,
You may feel she is to young.
But the recent things that have been happening would suggest that she is NOT to young.
2007-09-23 14:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Megan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why punish her? She is just curious. Talk to her about her body and tell her that what she was doing is a private thing. Punishing her for that could seriously harm her for life. Don't freak out, I did stuff like that with my friends at that age, and I'm as normal as they come. I didn't turn out to be some sex crazed stripper. Just remember that she doesn't know any better, so you need to tell her. If you catch her again tell her that until she learns that it is inappropriate to behave like that with friends she can't have anyone over.
2007-09-23 14:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Autumn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely do not punish her. I would sit down and talk to her about the situation. I would also suggest sitting down with the other little girls parents and discuss this with them as well to find out where this may be coming from. It is totally normal for children to be curious. You may not like it, but punishment is not the way to go. Good luck!
2007-09-23 14:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by stephensbaby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't punish her for that. She's just being a kid. Just talk with her and then talk with the mother of the friend and the four of you sit down and talk about how their bodies are private. Let this go...after you talk with your daughter and all parties about it. Could be the other girl started it. No punishement necessary..just communication I think.
2007-09-23 14:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all, I would not punish her. But I really would want to find out what this is all about. Is this the first time she and her friend got naked? Did they do the same thing over at her friends house? Does her friends mother know about it? Who brought up the idea they should get naked, your daughter or her friend? Welcome to the age of curiosity. It is more gooderer to ask questions, and to give straight answers, rather than getting out the whip and chains.
2007-09-23 14:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋