I found yahoo answers as a place to answer all my curosities. This is one of them . I heard some girl at work say im an asshole , when I havent even talked to her .I have noticed women hate quiet people , especially ones who dont talk to them . Why do women consider some one who keeps to himself an asshole? and why do they quickly look away or walk away when they see me ? How could a quiet person probably hurt them?
2007-09-23 14:22:43 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What the girls are really saying, is that they can't figure you out.
Girls like to "read" people, especially boys (which makes them great liars at times-only cause they are taught not to hurt no one's feelings-until they set you up for the break-up. Then it's your fault.)
Besides all that, they are trying to figure you out. Your a mystery wrapped in an enigma. Your not the typical boy they see in the crowds. Your "A" typical.
Don't take it personal. If your concerned about how you look from other people-STOP. I was the same way too. I was never anti-social, but I was never a person who wasted words. The way I did it, is that I stayed away for a while, then I'd open up. Then I'd turn around and not show up for a while (keeping myself busy doing other important things).
Why?
I'm not the type of person to tell EVERYTHING about me. The more people know about you, the less interested they are and the more vulnerable you are.
Of course, you can always invite ONE of them for lunch, start the conversation and let HER DO THE REST OF THE TALKING. Girls love it when men listen (even when they have nothing to say-banality) and two, know more of them than they know more of YOU.
2007-09-23 14:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything else that's turning them off?. I do not really believe that being quiet is so repulsive and a sure branding that you are an asshole. They may think you are dumb or the cat got your tongue but surely not an asshole. If you strongly believe that they think you are an asshole than I can conclude that the women you work with are a bunch of assholes. You are not telling all, are you??
2007-09-23 14:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by Old Timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quite interesting.
Many women are busy-bodies. They love to gossip and spread crap around about people, and I don't think they care if what they are saying is true or not.
I don't know why all kinds of drama and BS has to be spewed but they feel the need to do so, and they don't seem to care about the ramifications....obviously you overheard and are bothered by it. I would be too.
I think, since they don't really know you, that it's idle and shallow talk that has no basis other than to just share BS and make fun. It's immature and juvenile.....don't let it bother you.
Probably best that you don't associate with these people anyway. It's no loss to you my friend.
2007-09-23 14:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the opposite!! Loud obnoxious guys who can't keep their mouths shut are usually the asses, not the other way around. I'm sorry you work with insane women, perhaps they're just a little moody right now... But anyway, I always get curious about the quiet-type. Really, it's a good thing to keep to yourself. As long as you aren't snubbing people, of course.
2007-09-23 14:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Daltrain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haven't a clue, i don't think people who are quiet are assholes. It may just be the people you know. But you know what the saying is: be careful of the quiet ones. Hate that phrase, I'm quiet most of the time too.
2007-09-23 14:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by soso123845 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi blablabla,
If that's really the way you are as a person, a quiet type, then you need not go out of your way to please them. Believe me, my friend in this world it's always "damn if you do, damn if you don't". I don't think women hate quiet people. Maybe they're just curious about you & is simply using this ploy to draw you out from "what they feel is your shell". Also quiet people are always misinterpreted as "arrogant & aloof". I used to be that way before..But I've learned never to judge anybody anymore. And when I see a quiet type person, I go out of my way to befriend them. You would not believe how nice and friendly some of them are. But of course, there are the real "jerk" as I would say. But hey, there are "jerk" friendly persons as well who simply pretends to befriend but have inner agendas. Just be yourself. If that means talking when you begin to be comfortable with them, then go at your own pace and simply ignore what they say.
2007-09-23 14:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friendly and speak and smile at people as you meet them during the day. Don't worry that one person has labeled you. As long as you are treating people fairly, then what one woman says doesn't matter. It is good to have at least one person at work that you can relate with well. But, take your time in getting to know people or trust them. If one person feels that way about you, that doesn't mean anything. She may just feel put off because she wants your attention. Just be nice to her and ignore what she said.
I once worked with a woman that labeled one guy gay just because he didn't respond to her flirting with him. She was married; but, thought all guys should want to be all over her. He respected that she was married, was friendly, but did not respond the way the other guys did when she flirted. He just didn't paricularly like married women flirting with him. In time, everyone ignored her. Just be yourself and do your work to the best of your abilities.
2007-09-23 14:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that if your that quiet then your very shy and shyness doesn't really make me hate you or like you. But if you are shy I assume that your sensitive, caring, loving, and just really really nice. Most shy guys are the nice guys. Don't change your ways for a person to like you. If you do like a girl it wouldn't hurt to go up and talk to her.
2007-09-23 14:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People hate the unknown, and if you are quiet and stay to yourself, you are the unknown. Maybe you did something at some time that affected her, and that is where you got your title. Hey, don't feel bad I get called that all the time, and just say thank you, they could be calling me worse.
2007-09-23 14:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon she said it BECAUSE she doesnt know you well.
She hasnt had a convo with you.
That girl at your work is a jerk. She cant judge you. She dont know you.
Regarding those last few questions you asked, by the sounds of it they want to get to know you. they wanna talk to you. Get you to open up.
i dont know if that was much much help. It was from a third partys' perspective :P
Good luck with it :)
Emily
2007-09-23 14:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋