I just took the bc pill for the first time in my life, my mother doesnt know . how to stop the guilt inside?

Question

I am 16 .

I am doing this to be a smarter, responsible person .

my mother told me before if i ever wanted to go on it to ask, but it wasnt easy for me so i didnt tell her .

now i feel guilty , today was my first time taking the pill and just the feeling of me swallowing it was like all this guilt building up inside of me . =( .

Answer 1

I've found out from experience it's always easier to ask for forgiveness rather than permission, so now that you are taking the pill congrats on a mature decision, (imagine the guilt you would feel having to tell your Mom she's going to be a Grandma.) Second if you are sexually active I hope you know the pill doesn't protect you from STD's, so always use a condom too. Just let your Mom read this question and tell her you are only trying to be responsible, she may be angry but in the long run she'll be glad to know she raised a daughter who is smart and responsible.

Answer 2

XXCaesar, there is nothing wrong with you going to your mom at present and informing her of your decision to begin taking the pill. Sure she may be a little angry to think that you did not discuss it with her prior to making this decision, but I am sure also that she will be proud that you are doing the responsible thing in case something happens. But also remember that just because you are taking the pill that this does not eliminate the males responsibilty to use a condom also. The pill is not foolproof and besides it doesn't stop any of the STI's that are around. Let mom know how guilty you have been feeling and make sure to tell her of how much you appreciate all the love and support she has been in helping you make this decision. Do not lie and tell her that you will let her know prior to making love to a male as we all know that this isn't going to happen. Instead make her feel confident that you will not be a loose female just because you now are on the pill, and that you will not be sleeping around with everyone and getting yourself a bad name. Mom was once upon a time a teenager also and I'm willing to gamble my next paycheque that she can identify with all the feelings you are experiencing at present. Best of luck and you indeed do sound like a nice and thoughtful daughter.

Answer 3

If you are certain you are ready for this type relationship ( which personally I think you should wait) then I don't see the need for feeling guilty about protecting yourself from an unwanted pregnancy. I won't advise you one way or the other about telling your mom. That's something you need to work out for yourself. If you get on the pill pay attention to your body and make sure the pill isn't harming you. Read all you can about possible side effects and long term use. I had to get off of them completely after 10 years of use. They were becoming detrimental to my health.
Btw, don't do anything you aren't ready for because of peer pressure or pressure from a guy. Once you begin having sex it takes over and takes the place of other activities. You are only young once. Cherish your youth and innocence. Its YOUR life.

Answer 4

Don't feel guilty. You know your motivations for your actions. You aren't telling the truth, but you're not lying; you're committing an act of omission. And you're doing it presumably to spare her feelings, so your heart is in the right place. However, if she said you could ask for help, then why not tell her? Say, "I'm on the pill now, and I'm doing this because I want to be a responsible person. I just wanted to let you know." If she's already said she'd pay for the pills, she'll probably be impressed by your initiative and responsibility in paying for yourself. Be thankful to have a mother who supports you, who wants you to have fun and be safe.

Answer 5

since you are already on the pill you should go to your mom and tell her that you are, you should not feel guilty about making a smart responsible desision and your mom should be glad that your taking the smart way of a situation instead of getting pregnant, and even if you do not plan to have sex just yet it is great to have a backup anyways

Answer 6

You can't ........honesty is the best policy...
be responsible enough to tell your mother...you know bc pills are not 100%! Be careful of STD and gonnareah and PID.
If you have not had sex yet..which from the way you talk you haven't...keep yourself pure until marriage....God bless

Answer 7

well if u tell her she will understand becuse she said u could do it so calm down all will be ok...... i take the pill to and i did not tell my mom to a moth after i started taking it and she did no whount me on it to start but she said it was ok becouse i made a good choise to not get pregnet.......if u like u can e-mail me at ( [e-mail]) we can talk about it if u like


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Answer 8

Tell Mom, Im sure she will br very understanding, After all better safe then sorrow.