When you are going to break up with someone, would you act like you are meeting them to go on a date, or not? and if not, what would you say to them when you are asking to meet them somewhere?
2007-09-23 14:00:42 · 11 answers · asked by H S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Meet at a place you have not been before. Make it formal but quick.
2007-09-30 12:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you intend to end a relationship, you must not forget that you once cared for, or about this person; and may even have been in love with them.Hence, how you go about it is very important and critical.I suggest the following steps for your consideration:1)do not create the impression that this is your usual date.2)tell the person that you have an important issue to discuss with them, don't give piece-meal hints3)when you meet, be direct , complete, honest, yet be very kind. don't forget this person has feelings and may even still have feelings for you.4)use any means to soften the blow and the impact of your news, it is not good news you are delivering.Finally, never forget that you may be the one getting this type of news in the future,so always remember the 11th commandment----do unto others as you want done to you.I guarantee if you follow the suggestions above , you will feel a little bit better doing what is a very dirty job.
2007-09-23 14:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not make it seem like a date. Tell the person that you want to get together in person and talk. Do it privately so you are not embarrassing the person (and yourself) in public. If they want to leave at any time, let them.
Therefore you should ideally come over to their house to do it, so they are home and you can leave afterwards. Do not take them out in your car or go anywhere that you have to be together after the breakup.
And for the love of all that is good please do not use the phone, email, or text to break up. That is the worst.
2007-10-01 13:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by Meredith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a date, just casual, maybe go for coffee...I would definately be in a public place, be honest and polite, even kind but firm. Tell this person at least 3 good things about themselves, then tell them they are just not the one for you, but you want to remain friends. Corny, yes, but eventually the positive messages will get through and they won't feel badly toward you.
2007-10-01 10:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jody H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm the last time i broke up with someone its been like 2 years but i went hang out for one last time i knew it was my last time and i called my dad to come pick me up and after i got off the phone with my dad i knew it took him 15 min to get there and about 10 min later i just told him that it was nothing he did i just don't feel a spark of any kind between me and him and he flipped out and left me outside waiting by myself. called me the next day and appoligized for how he acted and asked me to go back, i said no and said thats final. now 2 years later im married. Just tell him straight up, dont embarrassed him infront of anyone just youo and him. Good luck, Sorry to make it so long
2007-09-23 14:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Nolan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best two excuses, "its not working out" or "i think its better if we're just friends" really some ppl go out and break up with "i'm seeing someone else" thats just plain heartbreaking and what goes around comes around. but i had a boyfriend i said this, "hey what's up, i just wanted to talk about US. i don't think its working out and its better if we just stay friends really." he totally agreed and we're like good friends. and always say in the end, "i hope we can still be friends" it will all end up for the best.
2007-09-23 14:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by MERVAT A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell that person i have to tell u something important can i meet u somewhere!!! but do it in a nice way so they wont think bad GOOD LUCK!!
2007-09-23 14:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have broke up with three of my boyfriends (different relationships) and I usually call them and just tell them that its not working out and I'm sorry. I'm blunt about it though. I've stayed friends with two of them so I know they got over it.
2007-09-23 14:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would meet them a normal.
2007-09-23 14:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Widgi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I broke up with my ex, I told him I needed to talk to him, so he met me at my house, I explained to him about how I was feeling toward our relationship. I told him I couldn't continue to see him anymore, because of the pain he have cause me, etc, etc. After we finish talking he agree with me, that we would just be friends.
2007-09-23 14:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋