would it be pathetic if i asked my ex who cheated on me and who i still have feelings for to be friends. I dont want to be the girl who comes crawling back after i told him to leave, but yet as low as it might seem i still think about him and im confused. I dont want to love him but i do and it kills me that i cant talk to him. Should i just live with my self and try finding another guy? Should i wait my ex to appalogize? Should I appalogize? If i do appalogize, how shoudl i?
2007-09-23 13:59:20 · 11 answers · asked by baker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it would. If he hasn't even apologized, why would you want to be friends with him? If he hasn't apologized, he obviously doesn't think he did anything wrong and would be happy to do it again. Do you actually want to be friends or are you just looking for a way to get back together with him? If you are o.k. with having someone in your life who doesn't respect you then I say go for it. If you actually respect yourself and want t healthy relationship in the future, I think you should part ways completely and give yourself time to get over him.
P.S.- What are you apologizing for exactly?
2007-09-23 14:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not apologize
Do not let him walk all over you
But if you and him still have strong feelings for each other go out again lay down the ground rules no cheating etc.
If that doesn't work and he doesn't want to get back together
then just be friends
Your life will not end
You can still hae a good time with him even if it is not a serious bf/gf relationship
And don't mind what other people say
2007-09-23 21:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not at all. But if seeking revenge such as misleading other person with motives you never intend to do than it is not fair to other person especially if person still has feelings for you. If your wanting friendship hoping to move up to relationship there should be some sort of time limit because life is very short so delaying possible future goals should be talked out or action taken as standstill never cures a person's pain but provokes it longer causing resentment and heartache because they never took the chance to forgive and therefore their life does not change no matter what other person says to you,even an apology. Person can talk and apologise until they are blue in the face and if not willing to accept and move on than it is just wasted air and energy since nothing changed regarding felling better and healing yourself. I learned that what you want to have happen for yourself you give away. It actually works. Like say for instance I'm going to give this another try because my instincts tell me to and then go out with person even if really don't want to than if they enjoy your company having good time than can reflect on you and might be glad that you did because were able to move on.Not planning to do all the time but at least give a once try. I never heard of anybody crawling back to anybody after a breakup. I think that is what desperate needy people do but sounds like you might of been on own for a while. We can not crawl back to the past but we can invite it to the future or present which is not looked down upon if two people agree to go back after a certain time. Are you looking at crawling back as you go to person. If it makes u feel better than tell other person to come to you than you don't feel like you had to do anything . But don't do it if your still not sure if you know what to do because being sure should be the reason because its driving you crazy and can tell others she or he came crawling back to me after all these years for better ego image if its gonna makae that much of a difference to how you view one of your skeleton's in the closet.lol just a saying for a past love that still spooks like a ghost of christmas past.
2007-09-23 21:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have it been since you both broke up?? for me it took me 4 months or more and now we dont really even talk but now im with the love of my life!! jus cuz one heartbreak hits you doesnt mean you cant get back up! honey things may work out but if he caused you all this pain why go back?!?? love is suppose to make you happy not cry!!! love should make you wish for the future not to crawl back. if he loved you he should feel the same way. if i were you try to stay focused on other things but yea things will be ok in the future hun i promise (no homo).
2007-09-23 21:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by livin_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you, but you want to apologize?
I think it's very hard to be alone and that's why you miss him. After all when he's there, there are certainly good times.
What you need to decide is, are you willing to share, or get his leftover time, or find someone who will build a life with you?
2007-09-23 21:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Actually, I'm going through a variation of it currently.
Don't apologize. It's not your fault that he's a...(insert word of your choice).
Tell him you want to be friends and that he can take it or leave it.
That's what I did. And it's going okay...I won't say everything will work out because it is still very awkward for us.
2007-09-23 21:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by Delilah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it's pathetic, and believe me i know how it feels cuz i've been there, but it's just fine, it will take u sometime to get over him, just think it thru, the guy cheated on you and broke ur heart , and u definetly went thru hell bec. of it, u don't want to go thru that again..do u?!...if u just wait , the right guy will come along ..don't worry, as they say "there's so many fish in the sea"....good luck
2007-09-23 21:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by MeMoRiEs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but i think its very pathetic, try not to be so needy and dependent on others. make yourself happy and dont let others use you. find someone better. like they say : the best way to get over some1 is to get under some1 else.lol
2007-09-23 21:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by drummergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. call em up. and if he says something bout it tell him to grow up. many ex's still talk together and maybee if you guys start bein friends again. then maybee he will realize he has feelings for you too again. orrrrrr you may reallize your not interested in him anymore buttttt you still want to be friends....just call him up or just talk to him in school or work. good luck. byee
2007-09-23 21:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it's called "love"not pathetic.
2007-09-23 21:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋