I met this guy at a party. We began dating and things were cool He would usually tell me things like , "he doesn't want a girl stalking him" and all that. I not into that stuff so i ignored it. then he began asking me how I felt about him. I didnt want to but he kept asking. So eventually I told him I loved him. Problem is.. whenever I asked him the same questions abt me.. he didnt want to answer. the most I got was "I like u a lot". I let it slide because he kept telling me he had been in a really bad relationship before this. and he keeps reminding me about it. I feel like he doesnt really want to be with me. but he calls me more than I call him. but when he calls i fell as thou he never has anything to say, and he usually cuts the convo short. He tells me I should be patient because things take time. but i keep feeling like im being fed a line. Should I wait, or should I leave him alone?
2007-09-23 13:34:04 · 13 answers · asked by kisses13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you are a rebound and this guy is playing hard to get... or maybe he just has some weird emotional issues... I'd let him go. There's no fun in dealing with mind games.
2007-09-23 13:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by ღ♥ Katie ♥ღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I let him know strait up how you feel. Personally, I would be to scared of the reaction to actually tell him face to face or over the phone, so I would text it... I know that sounds bad but sometimes that's all you can manage.
I would tell him that you can only wait for so long, and a little help every once and a while would be appreciated. I would wait for about another week or two and if there's no improvement, I think he could be a lost cause, for now at least. then i'd say tell me when you're ready, i'll be living my life until you are. that should shape him up, and if it doesn't, he's not worth it. go find yourself someone hotter and better. you deserve it after putting up with him.
2007-09-23 20:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Betty Boop 19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a nutshell....if you don't have a good feeling about this relationship, you should end it. As women, we often forget to check into our own spirits to evaluate whether things 'feel' right. That is a natural instinct that is God given - don't fight it. He is saying one thing, but doing another. Apparently, he has some luggage that is full to the brim with past issues. Until he unpacks these bags himself and deals with each piece, he is not going to be happy or healthy in a relationship. We have to stop ignoring the warning signs and allow ourselves time with others, or alone. Just don't accept anything. Sounds like you both don't have very much in common.
2007-09-23 20:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off--he doesn't want a real girlfriend, or at least he thinks he doesn't. He's either playing the field or terrified of admitting how he really feels about you. Tell him to call you when he figures things out.
Drop him and you'll find out soon enough. If he's angry, he's been stringing you along and upset because you're not playing his game anymore.
If he really wants you, he'll get up the guts to tell you.
2007-09-23 20:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by K L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone! Believe me the PERFECT GUY 4 U is out there. Love is so sweet when it just fits in every aspect of your life. Don't wait be smart and move on! He doesn't appreciate you like Mr Wonderful will, don't rush it girl. Enjoy observing the right guy.
2007-09-23 20:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by celest c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone he is on the rebound. He needs a long time just to get over being hurt and you don't need to get hurt in the process.
2007-09-23 20:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he means to or not you are being used. You need to leave the relationship and move on to guys that are already emotionally whole and healthy. Don't sell yourself short!
2007-09-23 20:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by naniannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone I can see where this is going. He is still hurting from past relationships and has not let go of the past and until he lets go and gives himeself time to heal. He SHOULDNT be in a relationship. Please leave him alone he needs space.
2007-09-23 20:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he calls that much it means hes hiding something and hes just trying to make sure you're not getting suspicous. Two words Dump Him!
2007-09-23 20:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by glamorousone06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel like he doesnt really want you and you cant trust him,so is that what you really want? and what is he getting out of hanging around you if he's so detached,are you sleeping with him? if so maybe thats all he wants without the committment. its nothing wrong with him he's just playing you.
2007-09-23 20:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Missexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋