What's wrong with my mother?

Question

Uh!!! I hate her. 'What are you gonna do about your life? I expected more than that, I think you should date somebody else, You can't do that, Uh, If you are good as your brother...
Oh my God.. What Kind of parents does say that to their child??

She picks every single things. She Just Won't let go. Is She Just picks on me?

You know that Monica's mom at the 'Friends'?
My mom is exactly like her.

No No No. You guys don't get what I meant. See, When My brother divorced, She said to him really nice thing to hear..like 'you are gonna be okay. Don't worry.'

But When I was broke up with my 7 years old relationship, She was like 'Huh, No wonder he broke up with you. Maybe it's because you are gay. you know Gays are not good about commitment as a Straight couple. ' My god, What Is she doin to me?

Answer 1

I am guessing you are a teenage girl.... ? I think most of us felt like that about our mothers when we were teens

Answer 2

This scene takes me back a few years when my mom used to quote some of the same things to me. Listen, it's a parent thing - it's a mother thing. It was probably told to her and she is passing it down. Don't get too frustrated. I wish I knew then, what I know now - allow your mom to rant and you keep doing things that are positive and bring them to her attention. When you get your report card - show her how well you are doing - what? You are doing well aren't you? So, you can't give her any reason to doubt your ability to be responsible and accountable. Try to talk to her when she is not ramping and raging. Send her a card, let her know you love her and appreciate that she is showing how much she cares about you. If you are approaching college age - get some pamphlets and sit down with her - let her in on it. Discuss your life with her - your hopes and visions and dreams. Let her in and allow her to offer suggestions. She just wants to bring the line closer and you are trying to pull away. I promise you - you will feel much better and your life with mom will be better if you allow her to help you. My mom is now deceased. I am a mother of a 21 year old. We never had those issues because I learned from my mom. I kept the lines of communication open with my daughter and we have had a lifetime of fun. Yes, I had to get on her at times, but together we worked things out. I wish you the best. I know you love your mom, but the two of you have to talk about these things and find a way to work it out. Please do this.

Answer 3

I have a mother who is very similar. I try VERY hard to understand and believe that she says these mean and hateful things because she is unable to express herself appropriately in order to give praise. When I have had enough I let her know (and that took years to achieve). I simple tell her that I don't like the way she is expressing herself and I let her know I will talk with her soon. I have had to hang up the phone immediately after this respoonse becuase she then tries little manipulative tricks to keep me "hooked." I have learned to feel sorry for my mother. It must be horrible the be that unhappy inside. Thank goodness I didn't inherit that trait!

Answer 4

Your not going to believe this but in a few years she's going to be your best friend, this has gone on for centurys....teenage girls and their Mothers.....a catastiphy. Right now I know about five teenage girls going through the same thing, mothers and teenage girls do not see eye to eye....that's a well known fact !!!!!!!!! You have to live with it so try to make the best of it....try and let what she says go in one ear and out the other....otherwise your going to be in a constant battle. Try too be very nice and do everything that she want's you to do....then she won't have anything to say about you !!! All mothers say things to there girls that they don't mean....it's just that she remembers what it's like to be young and she's probably afraid that your going to make the same mistakes that she's made....that's why she's so hard on you....but you know that she loves you....and it may not seem like it now but she cares about what will happen to you if you don't follow the rules !!!!! Hang in there...it will get better, I know that I wouldn't want to raise a teenage girl today...it's way too hard....it's so scary out there...and so many mistakes to make while growing up....maybe she feels like your not ready to handle what's out there. There's so many temptations for young girls today, and I'm sure that she just wants to prevent you from making the same mistakes that she's made...think about it !!!!!!! Time goes by fast...you'll be eighteen before you know it....good luck to you !!!!!!!!

Answer 5

You don't say how old you are,if you're going to school or working,or just hanging around.My dear you can not hate someone who carried you under her heart for nine months,and loved you.Please take the time to talk ro your mom about your feelings,and how much you hurt inside.When one touches another ones feelings it is quite emotional and we feel it.Ask what she expects from you,and you from her,then you both will know where to start.Maybe your mom is not as happy as you think,moms have problems too.take the time and talk with your mom,not AT her.Good luck dear.

Answer 6

She sounds a bit controlling, being a mother myself, now I understand my mother completely. I hated her for a long time, that is until my kid became a teenager, and then I understood her. She should not compare you to your brother, and my mom was a lot worse. We as mothers make mistakes and say things we shouldn't when we're upset, that does not excuse the badmouthing, but we all have done it. Trust me, once you have a child-you will understand.

Answer 7

Moms seem to have their children’s lives ALL worked out for them in this crazy little illusion since the day you were in the womb. You don’t seem to fit her illusion therefore you are the ‘disappointment” I was that child to my crazy mother so you are not alone. Best way to handle this is to make yourself happy and **** the *****! Really, and if she keeps fuzzing show her a pamflet of the asylum you’ll be checking her into when she is too damn old to wipe her own ***.

Answer 8

Maybe she picks on you so much because she wants you to be strong and stand up for yourself. It's the same thing here at my house. I'm the responsible child and my parents expect so much more from me. It sucks, but I deal with it. I asked them one time why they expect me to the responsible one and they said because I have a good head on my shoulders and that I can do great things in my life. It's a small price to pay, but in a way it's kind of like their respect for you. Hope that helps.

Answer 9

I know several former teenage girls who told people they hated THEIR mother's as well... then one day, one of the mother's was in a TERRIBLE car accident and KILLED... another of the mothers got cancer and died and another mother was pregnant and died during childbirth of her second child.... I'd be VERY careful if I were you about how you feel and what you SAY about your mother... she wants only the best for you and if something were to happen to her TONIGHT, how awful guilty you would feel FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE for EVER saying you HATE HER... Maybe you are a handful YOURSELF!!!!! and maybe you just ought to LISTEN to your mom a bit more---SHE was once your age you know and KNOWS a bit more then YOU about life.... and a parent who wants to know what their child is doing about his or her life and a parent who EXPECTS more from a child or wants her to date a better class of boy, well, she is being a GOOD PARENT... She is concerned for your well-being, your reputation and your LIFE---be thankful for that rather then hateful... were she to die tonorrow, you would be SOOOO sorry you EVER hated her... (or thought you did).

Answer 10

some moms are pushy, i feel for you, keep in kind though that she does care for you maybe you can talk to her in a nice way, like, "mom, i will never be as good as my brother, were two different individuals, but be sure i'll do my best" that's all moms want

Answer 11

Your mom only does that because she wants you to be the best person you can be, it's tough love hunny. Don't feel like she's picking you, just take in what she says and try to make the best of it. If it really bugs you then just CALMLY talk to her about it. In the end no matter what she says to you, she's proud of you and she loves you. Stay strong ! <33Sammy