I have been friens with Jon for 20 years. Him 33 and Me 27. Everyone around us always says that we belong together. We talk almost daily and hang out quite often. He flirts with me & only one time we did make out about 2 years ago. He kiss me. Our friendship not changed :) great. When he is drink he tells me that he would marry me and that he love me. He flirts with me when he is sober, but he flirts more when he drink. The time he kissed me he was sober. I don't know what he thinks. I have asked him before but he is pretty shy and he just doesn't really talk about it. 6 months ago he told me that he asked me to marry him again when he was drinking and I just laughed it off but then he started telling all of my friends at bar that night that he wants to marry me. I have a fiancee now that I love, but I can't help but think what if. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-23 12:20:59 · 7 answers · asked by Joanne P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you have known each other this long and he really wanted to marry you I think he would have asked you when he was sober and saw you getting serious about your fiance. If he is only telling your friends at the bar, and not you, he probably is scared that he might lose your friendship when you get married.
2007-09-23 12:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you want to marry? Jon, or fiancee? Think long and hard because the whole starter marriage trend going on these days leaves us hurt and cautious. If you think that Jon is the one, you need to fess up and let him know how you feel. If it's the fiancee you want to be with, forget about Jon. And if thats the case, do not ever ever ever go out drinking with him after you are married to other guy because thats a disaster waiting to happen! Just be honest with yourself cuz guys have a harder time with that than we girls do.
2007-09-23 19:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by sunniedispo28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to imagine your life in 5 years. Is Jon in it? Is the fiancee? Is your friendship with Jon worth risking by you sitting him down and asking him what is going on with him.
2007-09-23 19:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by rlgtmg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a fiancee, you should probably be asking yourself who you'd rather spend your life with. If you find yourself wanting to be with Jon, then you better decide you are either going to be with him or with your fiancee. Make sure you're POSITIVE or you'll end up screwing everyone's life up. Just be SURE of what you want. Then go for it.
2007-09-23 19:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might like you, but he doesnt have the nerves to ask you. Sit him down and have a one on one chat with him and tell him how confused you are. I mean, I'm only 16 here, but if you're confused, don't you have a right to ask? Ask him how he feels and really listen to your heart about if you like him or not too since you are engaged and all.
2007-09-23 19:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if u already truly love ur fiance u would be with him without thinking of sumone else.if this guy truly loved u he would have gotten serius about u a whle back.start new nd fresh and realize that there is sum1 there that wants to be ur bestfriend and ur partner for life and if u dont feel that it is right to be with the person and ur suppose to be with sum1 else i suggest u be with sum1 else instead of playinh with sum1nes feelings
2007-09-23 19:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Itz Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a fiance now....thats stupid so why r u thinking abd him nowww??..i dont think u shd think abd him noww...its far from over....move on and think abd ur new finace.
2007-09-23 19:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Honest_&_Loyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋