I've tried reasoning with this jerk but he won't stop.It's getting to the point where I'm about to kick the **** out of him.The problem is were both temp employees and we'll bot get fired and I may get arrested of course.What should I do
2007-09-23 11:53:32 · 20 answers · asked by HARRY N 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
It got to the point where he began to disrepect my religion.i'm a christian and he constantly tries to tell me christ isn't real and the church is a rip off.I told him he was the devil and that really got him going.I told him I didn't want to discuss religion but he insisted and kep talking even after I tried to ignore him.I even ignored him when he was talking to someone on the phone about me talking loud so I could here him.The fool also listens in on my private phone conversations..the sob even checks how many sodas I drink.The bastard tries to come off like some intelligent intellectual but he's just an asshole.
2007-09-23 12:50:24 · update #1
When the person crossed the line is when they brought religion into the discussion. At that point it became a federal offense under title 5 of the US code on discrimination.
1. tell the person in the presence of witnesses that that you do appreciate his comments ans ask that they stop.
2. if that does not stop the unwanted attention tell the person again but in writing with a copy for yourself.
3.if your organization has a human resources organization, document what the inidvidual is doing, citing times places and comments and take it to your HR people and your boss at the same time, making sure your boss knows you have gone to HR.
You can even skip the first two steps snd go directly to your boss and HR, be sure and document the other person's actions and how it makes you feel. Also have in mind exactly what resolution you want from the company, you cannot ask that anything be done to the other person, that comes under employee disipline not EEO. Transfer to another office, that you be placed in a work group seperate and away from the person. Be sure and explain how this makes your work environment hostile and uncomfortable and impacts your work. Odds are management already knows about this person and is just waiting for you or someone else to make a complaint.
2007-09-23 14:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by auhunter04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um ... just ignore him. if you work in an office setting and your a temp, itd be better to not let emotions get in the way so that your superiors recognize that you're a professional and efficient worker. If not, all they'll see is that you're a trashy temp who can't hold down a real job because she lets petty things get in the way.
so, to jab at people who are jerks, here are a few ways to let them get their due without being a noticeably guilty party:
1. if he's an idea-stealer: you let him steal a few of your good ideas until he feels like he can get away with it. then slip a bad one in and let him take the wrap. he won't willingly admit that it came from you without looking like an asshole either way.
2. if he's a busybody: tell your supervisor that you dont want to be rude but there are certain people in the office that seem to present a hindrance on yor efforts. he'll press you for more information, and just say that the person you don't like has been shor of harassing you.
3. If he;'s sexually harrassing you - speak up immediately. if yo're not comfortable going to a supervisor, tell the office gossip. word will get to the right parties shortly.
2007-09-23 19:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Meredith B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your manager. Tell him the guy keeps instigating a fight with you and, being a good employee, you have no desire to disrupt the company business. Be sure and point out that you're just trying to do your best job and this guy is distracting you and keeping you from doing what you're paid to do.
Get one of those small digital recorders and keep it on you. When he starts his smack, turn it on. I guarantee he will come straight to you for talking to the manager about him, probably make threats as well. Take that to the manager.
Fact is, he's a bully who knows you wont' do anythign at work and, if you do, he'll play victim role "I did't do anything! He just hauled off and hit me!" Some people get off on baiting people like this especially when they know the other person is unable or unwilling to do anything about it.
Myself, I'd catch him after work and beat the snot out of him, but that's just me.
2007-09-23 19:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start with 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie. It's not a qucik fix. Then go on to Solomon's proverbs.
All not quick and it takes years to filter into our brains as it's all so unusual. Then go on to all the books you can find on interpersonal relationships....... But ther journey of 1000 miles starts with the first step...... fighting will never help you. and I've got the broken knose, broken knuckles, scars and stitch marks to proove it.
2007-09-23 19:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard as hell to do, but it works/worked for me, but when you are around your boss, make SURE he is around too, and be NICE as HELL to him. That will just EAT him alive that you are being nice to him. Not only that, but it will make YOU look like the nicer guy, and it makes HIM look like a jerk. Your job will last longer with that company, and it will make you feel better about yourself because you are doing the right thing, even though it's somewhat in a malicious manner.
Hope that works for ya dude!
2007-09-23 19:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Listen_n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you the saw the movie "The Original Kings of Comedy" with Steve Harvey, D.L. Hughley,. Cedric"The Entertainer" and Bernie Mac. This situation you are talking about is one of the first things that D.L. Hughley brought up.
2007-09-23 19:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Michael M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I like number 1 answer lol. Next time he gets to you just start laughing at him...it'll throw him off b/c he'll be expecting you to get mad...that use to drive my brother nuts! Or you could pretend to agree with him and continue the conversation telling him how much you hate yourself and "oh my gosh did you hear what I did the other day"...make him feel like a moron.
2007-09-23 19:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Smeather 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Without more details, it is VERY hard to say. On just that, I would simply grab him by the throat with one hand and the balls with the other (when nobody is looking) and quietly say...you breath or your balls...you will lose one if you do not stop.
This is VERY effective.
auhunter...it is not a federal offense to disrespect anyone's religion...it is pathetic, but a federal offense??? NOT!!!! This is a co-worker. Unlike the liberals think...there is no law that protects you from being offended.
2007-09-23 18:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You ALLOW him to push your buttons. Really, you need to exercise some self control, you will always be around jerks who want to push your buttons, you are in control of your own buttons and if you lose control, then you lose your temper and at some point, your credibility, your professionalism and then your job...do you really want to give someone else this much power and cotrnol over you or do you want to exert yourself a little and ignore this jerk? It's up to you. And bear in mind, if you do let him get to you and do something to get arrested, that record will follow you around for the rest of your life...and you have only yourself to blame.
2007-09-23 18:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should talk to management about this. Violence won't solve anything; it will only get you in trouble. If you're really having a problem with him, and he won't back off, you should tell your manager that he's harassing you (which is what he's doing, isn't it?)
2007-09-23 18:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by twilight fairy tale 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋