my mother has a really bad attitude , once she gets mad there is no stopping her from hating or tellin that person off. sometimes it really embarasses me and sometimes it is just really uncalled for. she does not smile or laugh and when were watching a funny movie she falls asleep and i dont know how to tell her that i cant stand it what do i do ?
2007-09-23 11:43:45 · 14 answers · asked by Leticia S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe your mom is going through menopause.
2007-09-23 11:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one important thing you don't mention is whether this is a sudden departure from her normal behaviour, or if she has been like this always. If she is suddenly acting this way, where you may have had a previously great relationship, then something has suddenly come into the picture that was not there before. She might be entering the Menopause with all of its sometimes associated emotional difficulties. She might have some medical condition causing it, or be on some kind of medication and this is a side effect. Or she may be having some sort of conflict with your Dad (if he's arround) or somebody at work (if she works) or some other person for some other reason, that is stressing her out.
You don't mention how old you are, but I think the only way you are going to get any answers is by confronting her and asking her outright. "Mom, what's going on? I'll help any way I can, but it's pretty obvious that you aren't yourself, and I need you to let me in. Talk to me". If she doesn't respond to this, then perhaps you need to talk to some other member of the family that your Mom is close to..... Grandma, or an uncle or aunt.
2007-09-23 11:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has hate and anger toward others in heart. She may have been hurt or scared and got no love or help or results and struck out to get attention when she was younger and then got worse and worse. She may be mentally ill. She may need medication. If you have a father in your home, talk to him about getting her to the doctor and getting her help before she ends up in jail or shot. One day she will tell off the wrong person and get arrested (threatening people is considered 'terroristic threats' in most cities and that term was used before 9/11 and has nothing to do with 'terrorism') or she may cross the wrong person and they might beat her butt or kill her.
Also, encourage her to go to church with you. If she won't, you go and when she sees how happy you are she may decide to join.
2007-09-23 11:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to her about it..
Perhaps you can ask your mom if the two of you could go grab a bite to eat. While your sitting down to eat you can nicely say "Mom I wanted to ask you if everythings alright, you havnt really been yourself latley" .... and if she asks you what you mean, nicely and calmly say "Well, you havnt been laughing at things like you used to, and you seem to get angry very easily."
If your mom starts to get heated, just calmly end the conversation by saying "Okay, we dont have to talk about it right now. I just wanted to make sure theres nothing bothering you."
And maybe you could let her know that if something IS bothering her, that you wouldnt mind listening and trying to help.
Maybe your mom has something on her mind - or maybe she doesnt even realize that shes acting this way.
Good luck.
2007-09-23 11:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people who can't be happy, because they are too stress out, they hate their lives, and there is nothing fun around it. Maybe time to figure out her past, to see who upset her before. And go to read about it. Write her a little card to tell her that you love her and you want her smile alot. It takes many years for her to turn this way, and it will take a lot of times for her become someone who will laugh a lot.
2007-09-23 11:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by paobay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No two people react the same way to the same situation hon, and your mom is no different! It's the way the brains wired. Your mom probably survives on stressful situations, to her it's normal, but to you it's 'over the top!' A lot of actors are inclined to react in that manner and people around them steer clear of their outbursts, but they themselves think nothing of it! Your mom could be counselled on her attitude but I doubt whether she'd bother to go! As I said before, they are unaware of their behaviour. Have a great day.
2007-09-23 11:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be menopause? Tell her you miss hearing her laugh. Make it sound like it's totally not her fault and maybe she won't throw the brave little toaster at you when you try to approach the subject.
2007-09-23 11:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Smeather 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your mom may be going through menopause.
she could also have a seriouse problem. my ex-boyfriends mother had a seriouse problem exactly like this and had to take pills for it. you have to just approach the subject very carefully. tell her you miss the good old days. if that dosent work. ask her about it. if she still dosen't improve. send her to a doctor.
2007-09-23 11:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by yellow skittles wb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be depressed. Maybe it's menopause. Be nice and ask her if something is bothering her. She might open up to you. Ya'll might get closer than you think. Good luck.
2007-09-23 12:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by NayNay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be going through the begining stages of menopause and she might need some hormone tabs or some type of hormone therapy . good luck dear and I would suggest to someone that she see a dr . perhaps talk to your dad or another adult to talk to her . good luck.
2007-09-23 11:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋