I have been with a man for over 5 years now. We have a child together and we love eachother very much. In the middle of these 5 years I have become a born again Christian. I have done so many bad things, that its very hard to know I should move out since we are not married.
I am from a divorced family and didnt want my life to be like that. So I thought that living together was best. He believes in God, but he is not born again. We have some problems like most relationships, and he wants to get married after we fix them. I dont want to be with anyone else. I am feeling torn. I appreciate any help you can offer.
2007-09-23 11:39:36 · 18 answers · asked by T I 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, God has given you the choice. You do what you believe is right in your heart. Avid Christians do believe that it is wrong, but simply pray about it, talk to God, he/she, will give you the answers.
God Bless
2007-09-23 11:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by pinkeee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is a child in your relationship and stability is the number one goal. that doesn't mean you marry someone automatically. sounds like you both have great potential and ultimately, will work things out. As far as religion goes, there are lots of divorces in and out of religious circles. Relationships should be based on respect, mutual trust and common goals. That being said, he should not be obligated to say the "i do" to religion if it is not his thing. You can both respect each other's spiritual journey and lead a fulfilled life. As for the "living together", you're not in the minority. The piece of paper does not guarantee anything, really. Divorced folks are not always "bad folks", perhaps persons who went into public committments prematurely or under social pressure. Think it all through and be true to yourself and your child.
2007-09-23 11:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by Aggie T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're child should be your first concern. If you leave that home it is the same as putting your child through a divorce. If it is an unhappy relationship, then the child will suffer, and divorce is a good thing. If it is a happy relationship then the divorce would be BAD idea. So if you have a good relationship, stay with it. Moving out would be damaging to your child if he/she is in a loving relationship household. To snatch them out of that would just be wrong.
2007-09-23 12:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Blue Scarrab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a child you don't want to go through the pain of a divorce. Don't you think moving out of his home and away from his daddy would be the same thing? You are in an established, loving, normal relationship. It is a common law marriage. You can't just move out now.
2007-09-23 11:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by atheist 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to shake my finger at you and say: "Bad, bad sinner!". However, Marriage between a man and a woman is commanded of God if they are to cohabitate. You can find examples of this throughout the Bible. It would be best for your family in the long run to be married and then continue to work out the problems. If you take your vows seriously this in itself will help you weather the hard times.
2007-09-23 11:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly a Christian then you know what it takes to be a Christian - we live by God's laws to show him our love and thankfulness. He makes these laws to protect us.
I lived in that situation many years ago. I actually ended up moving out. I met another "more" Christian man that I married. Today my oldest son, his father (my ex) and his wife and my husband and I get along very well. I don't think it would have been such a great ending if I didn't follow God's commands.
2007-09-23 11:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by BoysMommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not christian but moving out because you are not married is too late. You have a child together. What's done is done. Just look at the path you have ahead of you.
"Dont try to pick the mold off the bread, just make new bread."
2007-09-23 11:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God knows what is in your heart; nobody else really matters. If you are good with your current situation and feel that God understands, then be fine with it! In your, your mates, your Child's, and God's eyes you are married. You don't need to pay some hypocrite 100 buck in-front of a hall full of people to tell you two that you are Man and Wife!
2007-09-23 11:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do that and let religion be the ground breaker u had no problems and I don't know why wud you do this to this man wouldn't you dis honer your children they have a father that they love doesn't your children's happiness means more then religion if ur happy and if he wants to marry you it wud make it better all it is a piece of paper children need both there mom and dad it wud only brake up the relationship that they have with there father be the couple you are be with each other
2007-09-23 15:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by edward_church2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I a'm a christian to; and i think is too late to moved out know your child is in a safe and good environment, why will you want to do that for. how can you finds words to tell him, he is going to leave, his father; then you would have double trouble,, one you will have to find , a good home for him, and two, you will still have your church people talking about you. because that what they, do; so i say pray and ask god to help you; to guide you and to keep you and your child and his dad in perfect peace;;;; yes god wan't every believe to be free- out sin. and he tells us in his words; i ate sin but i love , sinners. god love you the way you are and please don't let no one tell you that he does not; ------you see the good god that we worship; he nows every thing about us and god said a sin is a sin ; no matter what kind of sin we commit. so i don't believe some people are judging you, like if they are free of sin the bible tell us That we all sin and come short of the glory of god and god continue to speak, he said he look and search all over the world and he didn't find not even one just but his only begotten son of the father and god said we all were conceive in sin from the day we were born. so ,is committing sexual sin is bad so is liying stealing killing talking, about each other behind they backs ,etce tera and so far. and if our creater, love us and accept us the way we are, why bother about what sinner like you and me have to say, jesus said come as you are, that means god is in charge he is the only one that can change you and your child, dad, and god tell us that;;;;;;;;;;;; our spirit is willing but ------ our flesh is so weak, we all have a weak flesh and we can't do any thing about this but pray and keept on praying ,and ask the father to help us that we may not fall into temptation, and this mean in eve ry thing that we do, you know our daily activities and our where--about, and dont you forget all sins are forgiven. except for one and that , sin is dont sin againts the , holly spirit, because god will not forgive you for that in this life nor in the next to come, these are his words and god does not lie. he can't lie.;;;;; so what ever you decide to do just remmenber this is not about you alone there is a precious child of god , and your job is to take care of him , if his dad want you to stayed then stay, and don't worry about your christian s brothers and sister because if you need a place to stay and you don't have where to go and if you ask for help most of them will tell you they are going to pray for you and don't do anything. and you know this is the true take care of your self and be bless!!!!
2007-09-23 14:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Rosalinda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋