...because the last time I seen her I told her that I have been having the urge to cut like 10 minutes before my appointment ended and when it did end she said that we would talk more about it at my next appointment. I am scared to go to my appointment tomorrow because I don't want to talk more about it. I want to find out how to deal with my urges to cut but I am scared to talk to someone face to face. I want to go to this appointment but for some reason I am embrassed to go. I want to talk to my counselor about my urges to cut but I am scared that she is going to report me if I say the wrong thing and if I slip and tell her that I have been cutting. Any advice would be greatly apperciated!
2007-09-23 09:30:13 · 5 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I can understand that its scary to go and talk to a complete stranger about something so personal, but you have taken a HUGE step by going in the first place. A therapist's job is to not judge someone, to take what they are saying and offer help, a different perspective. Your therapist is required by ethical standards, and confidentiality, to keep everything that you say between you and her. The only time that she can break that confidentiality is if she feels you pose a serious threat to yourself or someone else. My guess is that she didn't think you posed a real threat to yourself since she said she would address that topic in the next session. She's trusting you, just as you should trust her. Give yourself some credit, it was a HUGE step, as I said, going to a counselor in the first place, which shows a lot of courage. It takes time to build a rapport with your therapist. It can be extremely embarassing admitting your darkest secrets to a complete stranger, but in time you might look at that as comfort, someone that won't judge you based on your secrets and thoughts. Sometimes pushing through your fears is empowering, showing you that you are capable of taking control of your life and helping yourself. Not a lot people can do that. My suggestion is push through, go and talk about your fears of going. Tell her how embarassing it is and how scared you are, that takes the focus off your cutting for now and focus on your feelings of embarassment and fear. I commend you for taking control of your life. I hope this helped, best of luck.
2007-09-23 09:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by SportPsych Major 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Therapists have seen just about everything. No need to be embarrassed, they treat people with all kinds of problems, some worse than yours. Maybe thinking that will make you less nervous. It's important that you go - try to think that in a short time you will be getting better so making yourself go now will be better for you in the long run.
2007-09-23 09:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about your counselor, but I've been talking to my professors (both are counselors), and they said that they'd never, ever "report" someone unless they really have to. From what they've told me, "cutting" isn't one of those things that warrants reporting, as it can be treated without resorting to medication. Rest assured that your counselor would never betray your trust unless there is no other choice and it's for your benefit.
I think you should go to your counselor, and try to trust her; that's the first step!
2007-09-23 09:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by raneofdoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can really understand why it's scarey, but firstly, your counsellor absolutely will not report you to anyone unless she seriously believes you're planning to kill yourself and you have refused to go and see a doctor (she would ask you to do that before she would do anything herself). So - that just isn't going to happen, because you're cutting, not trying to kill yourself.
I'm a psychotherapist, and what I would suggest you do is go and say to your counsellor exactly what you've told us here. Be clear that you find it really difficult to talk about it. What I would expect her to do is just talk about your fears. Gradually, I expect, you'll find it easier to begin talking about the cutting itself, and then you'll begin to work with her to find out what it's all about, how to deal with the actual cutting AND the reasons behind it.
Good luck tomorrow - really hope you get there and tell her.
2007-09-23 10:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ambi valent 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just say you don't want to talk about it,
you are human and have feelings n' she understands that too
2007-09-23 09:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋