im 18 next month and have been with my boyfriend who is 21 for 12 months now my parents absolutley love him and it was all going great.
we decided to go away for the weekend we went out on the friday night got back to the hotel quite drunk at about 3am and had totally outrageous sex. my phone was on the bed and wasnt on keys lock so i unknowingly clicked it and it called the last person that called, that person being my mother!! obviously she was in bed and didnt answer it but it went onto her voicemail!!!!
my parents go to church and dont believe in the whole sex before marriage thing and have always preeched about it to me growing up. and the worst way to find out that your daughter is having sex is to actuallly hear her at it!!
i cant believe it i feel absolutley terrible that they heared it and i dont know what to do! i know i am legal but i feel like they hate me and feel totally disgusted!
2007-09-23 09:22:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW i'm really sorry to hear that. try to talk to them about it. I don't know how it can get any worse. I guess that's the only thing you can do
2007-09-23 09:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, if you live in the house and they knew that you were going away for the weekend, something tells me they knew you were probably going to be having sex. (And most parents aren't that stupid; they know when their kids are going at it... they just like to be willfully blind.)
They don't hate you--you're their daughter and they love you. They were also 17 once, and chances are that they were either having sex, trying to have sex, going to third base, or thinking about it at that age. They may be disappointed in your choice, but they're not going to be disgusted.
There's really nothing much you could do. Going forward you can (a) pretend like nothing ever happened (which, if your parents want to be "willfully blind" of your sex life, may be the best solution), (b) sluff it off like a joke -- "Hey, I was just trying to spread some joy..., (c) quietly apologize and then drop it, or (d) have the nice, long, parent-to-child talk about how you are in love, and sharing your affection with someone you trust, who's been around for a long time, and how you're being responsible (you ARE being responsible, aren't you?) Even if they don't approve, you hope that they respect your choices, will allow you to make your own mistakes, and at least you're screwing a really nice guy that may be part of the family some day.
Only you really know which way to go.
Oh, there's option (e), which is to tell a white lie -- "oh mom, that wasn't me; we were watching a really crazy movie and the phone was in my pocket (if the idea of watching porn is more tasteful than you two having sex.) To the extent that they REALLY need an excuse to be willfully blind, perhaps you can think of a better lie than that.
Good luck!
2007-09-23 16:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a christian too, so i know how your parents feel. Dont run away from your problems if they already found out. Tell them why you did what you did and just talk to them. If they are true christians then they will forgive and forget. Promise them you wont do it again and all is good and well.
2007-09-23 16:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol brilliant absolutely hillarious rofl ;D OMG its one of the funny things in life i mean what can u really say its like american pie or smthing lol.Try listening to the tape somehow it might not be as clear as u think .if it is clear i guess u can just say it was ur first time if the question u.They should just respect that really and actually expect it althought not hear it too lol.
2007-09-23 17:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by ahvillian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have told them that what they heard was someone having sex on tv! You are their daughter...how can they ever hate or feel disgusted with you? Besides, when you got back home, did they ever mention it to you? Don't be so hard on yourself.
2007-09-23 16:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Man that sucks. make up a story or sumthing that is believable. if worse comes to worse just tell them u were ready and it just happened. i know theyll be mad but in the end if they really love you they will respect ur decision.
:D
2007-09-23 16:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do they have caller i.d., cause if they don't you can pass it off as some prank phone call, thats really funny though, haha, oh well i think you just shouldn't be around them for a while. wait till it cools down. thats also really really embarassing, god that sucks, hahaha, im sorry i just can't help you.
2007-09-23 16:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened, happened. There is nothing much you can do. Pretend that you don't know anything about the voicemail unless they bring it up.
2007-09-23 16:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal♥of♥Iris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And so what? It's not your parents who must decide what to do with yourself. If you want to be happy, you must do everything you decide to do. My advice is to support your willings and chances. Good luck!!!
2007-09-23 16:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by alexandra charlotte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, ouch!!! god do i feel bad for u
it will be okey, i bet they did it when they were ur age, but with out the viocemail. but again no they r ur parents and they understand
good luck
2007-09-23 16:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋