basically i fell in love with this guy at work and asked him out but he turned me down. i couldnt get over him so after a month i told him the truth that i just cant forget him. from there we started meeting up and the physical part of it just happened and i lost my virginity to him. so we're together but he doesnt want anyone to know we're seeing each other. i feel that he's with me just for the sex, and i got no clue what to do about it.. help!
2007-09-23 09:18:32 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesnt want anyone to know at work! its same for me as its gonna get quite awkward if they know. i get the feeling that he cares about me, i did ask him if he's with me just for the sex but obviously he said no!
2007-09-23 09:41:16 · update #1
Look that's about it he only wants you for sex.I mean come on he doesn't want any one to know your together thats triflin and if i were u i know it would hurt but i would kick him to the crub and find some one that wants you for more than sex and doesn't mind the world knowing your together bemtrue to your self or you want ever respect ur self
2007-09-23 09:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by mailmev2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl, I'm sooo sorry! If a guy doesn't want anyone to know about your relationship that is a RED FLAG! Dump him unless he's thrilled about telling everyone you are together.
I had a guy do this to me while we were dating because he was in a band and he said it sells more tickets when it appears the guy is single on stage! I found out a few months later that he was embarrassed by our relationship (I was 19, he was 28) and not even that interested. We split and that was that.
He may even be using you to cheat on someone else. Whatever it is, it's not good.
Remember next time to save yourself for marriage. It's a sure test of whether a guy is good husband material. Also, get checked for STDs because this guy may be carrying a few...
2007-09-23 09:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go public or to get his nooky elsewhere. You're no secret lover to be kept in the closet and deserve the respect of being recognized as his girlfriend. If he's not willing to take that step then he's a sleaze ball and you're better off without him. Oh, and telling him how you couldn't forget him was a big mistake. He already told you "no" and that should have been the end of it. What ended up happening was you sending up a huge red flag that read "DESPERATE!!!" Obviously he took advantage of the situation; what guy wouldn't? Give him the ultimatum, but I don't think you're going to like the results.
2007-09-23 09:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by rainbowreggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want anyone at work to know, thats a good hint that you need to get away from him. I used to be a jerk when I was younger, I had a gf that I was embarrassed to be with in public, but yes the sex was there. It's mean I know, I learned my lesson. Simply put, I've been there, I was that guy, get rid of him.
Wish you the best
2007-09-23 09:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by JackAcid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a happy life...dump him. That's sick of him to even say that. He's not the only one to balme though(not to be harsh but seriously)...He turned you down once and as soon as you told him how you feel, the physical thing took over...AND he said for you not to tell anyone that you're together..so tell me..who's in control here?..You deserve better sweetie..there are good guys out there...its not even worth "talking it over"..he's solely with you for sex. End of story.
2007-09-23 09:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cilantro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE em brassed to be seen with you i can tell so in a different point of view yes he only want you for sex i am sooooooooooo sorry .... the reson i say is that if he really love you or even like you he wouldn't care what people think when they see you together
2007-09-23 09:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by ......... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no!
Yeah, if he doesn't want anyone to know you're seeing each other, it could just be the sex he's after. But, if he's this way because of the work environment, that could be understandable.
Can't you tell if he loves you? If you have to ask, it does't look good.
2007-09-23 09:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, sex gets very addictive and it is a shame you put yourself in a situation like this. You will have to now go cold turkey and stay away from this guy. Yes he is just into the sexual bit and does not want a relationship with you.
2007-09-23 09:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yah if he doesnt' want anyone to know that your dating a red flag should have gone up in your head. why would he mind if anyone knew that you guys were hanging out together. I would think that he was dating some one. Now if you both get physical alot i think that he is only in it for the sex. I think its time to let him go. :[
2007-09-23 09:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by heavensangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and if that all he wants then you need to leave him. I know that is gonna be hard to do because you love him and you gave him a part of you but you have to force yourself to move on with your life and find somebody that will love you for who you are and not what you can give them. If you have to question then theres something not right.
Good Luck and let me know how everything goes.
2007-09-23 09:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋