I think my ex is emotionally unstable...?

Question

I have a 7 month old son with an ex of mine (& yes I'm paying my child support). I've tried working with her on visitation outside of court because she said she wanted to keep things out of court as much as possible & I agreed. However, she's only let me see him about 5 times. She'll make agreement to meet with me but then won't show up or call to let me know she can't make it. Then she won't answer or return my calls for days or weeks if at all. Her reasons are that things are just too hectic at home or that she just forgot. At first I just thought she was just trying to be mean by not letting me see him. One of my friends is an ex co-worker of hers & told me that while talking to another worker the other day, was told that she is getting married to a guy she's been with for only 6 months & that she's been telling people at work that the only reason she's marrying this guy is because I'm trying to take her son away from her & marrying him will keep me from that.

I have not idea what she's talking about. I've only filed for visitation since she hasn't been letting me see him. I'm beginning to worry about her & the well being of our child. I think she has or is becoming emotionally unstable & I want her to get help. However, what should I do or what can I do to help?? Does it sound as if she's emotionally unstable??

P.S. She gets very easily angered at me and most of the time I don't even know why. But when she does, that's when she won't return my calls or emails and that's also when she won't show up for our scheduled meetings... How can I help or am I over-reacting??

Answer 1

File for visitation, and let the courts decide. Make sure to tell them that she is not honoring your out-of-court agreement. It will up to her to explain why she's breaking the agreement, and if there is any instability, it will hopefully be appearent at the hearing.

Answer 2

First evaluate the very youthful age of your toddler and how recently she has given start. the 1st year or so after a splash one is born is extremely aggravating for a 2 discern enjoyed ones and impossibly so for a single discern. not something you stated sounds like emotional instability so if that's the case, you prefer plenty extra serious examples. or you are able to chalk it as much as her destructive thoughts approximately you no remember in case you compromise with them or not, and the traditional hecticness of mothering an toddler. the superb element of do is petition the courts for a visitation and help listening to. whether, do not assume to get a great style of time with your toddler suited now because of the toddler's age. Developmentally, the toddler needs to not be separated from his/her popular caregiver for long cases, fairly if the mum is breastfeeding. Such separations can create a great style of misery in the toddler and have an prolonged term emotional result. whether, your conventional presence on your toddler's existence is likewise significant for bonding. ideally, you 2 ought to conform to permit you to pass on your toddler in her homestead for a 2 to 3 hours a pair of times each week, each week. My ex and that i try this, and on an identical time as this is not a suitable affiliation, it provides him parenting time with our toddler so she appreciates his place as a discern. in case you are able to agree on that, then seek for something impartial the place you are able to spend a pair hours at a time with your toddler. this is stressful an unsightly to attain this, however the superb factor to your toddler is for the two one among you to place your childs prefer earlier your thoughts approximately the different discern.

Answer 3

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