There's a annoying loud mouth coworker that I have to deal with. She's very opinionated and she is not afraid to say what she wants. She has been spoken to by our supervisor many times about her attitude. Lately, I feel she's out to get me because she's has been complaining to many people about me even though I didn't do anything to her. I'm that kind of person who is very friendly and like to help other coworkers by making things easier around the office. When asked, one coworker doesn't see what I did wrong to annoy her.
2007-09-23 09:06:55 · 15 answers · asked by Rommie 7 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Administrative and Office Support
Rommie, the best thing to do is to just ignore her (she'll get bored if she doesn't get a rise out of you), and just do what you've always been doing. You say that you're friendly, and like to help others, so keep that up! Others will see who's "right". It could also be she's trying to bait you, so if you react, you'll just give her more ammo to use against you. Treat her like you'd treat any annoyance; ignore it and it'll go away.
Edit: I noticed quite a number of people saying that you should "stand up" for yourself. I don't think that's really a good idea; it'd just justify her actions ("You see? I told you she was a (insert insult here)" and stuff like that.) If you really can't handle it, do things legally, like making a formal complaint to your boss, or something similar.
2007-09-23 09:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by raneofdoom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my experience people like the one you have mentioned are out for only one thing: ATTENTION. They are self absorbed and in all actuality do not like them selves. With this state of mind they have, it is easier to take the nice people down a notch to make them selves feel better. There is a price to pay for being too nice. Sometimes when you stand up to a bully their true colors show and the coward is revealed to all. You do not seem like a person who has a mean bone in your body. This is a dilemma that can only be solved by taking the coworker down with more kindness than you give any one else. No matter what the miserable excuse for a human says, shower her with compliments and kind words. She will soon see you are a genuine nice person and will accept her defeat.
2007-09-23 09:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jason G. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From the looks of it Rommie, your colleague seems to be someone who needs a friend. The reason she seems out to get you is probably because she's jealous of how easy it is for you to make friends. Be extra nice to her, no matter what she does (& I don't mean be nice to her face & complain/gripe about her behind her back!). Be honest & genuinely try to become her friend. She probably just needs to feel like she can fit in & ignoring her is only going to aggravate matters. Talk to her & treat her like you would treat anyone else in your office. And be patient.. People don't change overnight but people do change.
It's better to know you tried your best than to wonder for the rest of your life whether you could have done something to help her. If you can understand the other person, you can empathize with their situation.
"Be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle..."
I know my answer seems to be the exact opposite of what everyone else is saying Rommie but I believe that this is the best solution.
Good luck! Let me know what happens...
2007-09-23 23:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tempus_Fugit 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's probably insecure and in some way feels threatened by you. It's most likely why she's complaining to others and not addressing you with the problems she claims you are creating. In doing this, she's basically damaging her own reputation.
Unless it's affecting your work performance, I'd ignore it. Eventually the truth will come out and your coworkers will see her for what she is.
Good luck.
2007-09-23 09:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by A C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you did not mention if you co-worker is inexperience or highly experience in computer, but 4 months is not a long time. What you consider a "fairly basic job" to you, might not be to him. For my experience, I take all job seriously whether it's big or small. I want to make sure I follow all the company guideline and core value. I always get nervous, and keep asking question to make sure I do my job correctly. Neat and well organize is very important when you share a small office space with other people. As for your part, sometime being a nice guy will open the door for a co-worker to take advantage of you. You may want to suggest to him that if he does not fully understand his job; then you can refer him to the manager for more training.
2016-05-17 05:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy into it. She is trying to shift the negative focus from herself to some someone else. If you start talking about her or try to get back at her, she has succeeded.
If the supervisor(s) are aware, it's only a matter of time. Do not let yourself get drug down too. Keep your distance, stay friendly and neutral.
2007-09-23 09:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Echo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is just do your job, keep your nose clean and don't let her get to you. I've had several of these types of coworkers over the years, there's one in every job. I've found that if you just be overly nice to the person, and don't let their rude comments get to you then it'll all work out in the end :)
2007-09-23 09:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are on good terms with your boss, ask if you could meet with him/her briefly.
Let them know that you don't want to cause any problems but that you keep hearing from several people that she has been bad mouthing you.
Tell them that you simply want to bring that matter to their attention.
Then go about your day, smiling, being friendly, doing your job and ignoring her as best you can.
2007-09-23 14:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by tak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont you hate girls like that? its time to put your foot down. talk to your manager and tell him/her that this coworker is creating an unstable work environment and that you will not tolerate it. The best thing you can do around her short of calling her out is by keeping your chin up and acting confident (even if you dont feel too confident). show her that her actions do not phase you, because bullies feed off reaction. Don't give her a reaction and she'll starve.
2007-09-23 14:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Revolution 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Bring it up with human resources if you have one or go to your boss again. There are also so legal ways to deal with it but that is not the place to start.
2007-09-23 09:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by debbie f 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋