I am overweight, and none of the guys I ever like, like me back. How can I find a boyfriend who will love me for who I am and not care about my appearance?
Im 19 and have never had a boyfriend
2007-09-23 08:03:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wont be fine on my own. i want to get married some day. I want to have children. Im already 19 I would love to have children in my early-mid 20's but that wont happen if I dont find someone
2007-09-23 08:19:12 · update #1
I dont blame guys for not liking me and I dont 'expect' every guy I like to like me back. I understand that I need to lose weight. I have tried so many diets but I can never stick to them :[
2007-09-23 08:28:56 · update #2
The reason I am freaking out is because I am running out of time. I want to get married. I want kids. I dont want to be in my 30's when I have my kids.
2007-09-23 08:48:00 · update #3
You need to be happy with your self as a person, and comfortable with how you look. Once you are you will be able to show guys who you are inside.
At 19, I can understand some guys your age can still be focused on looks before substance but that doesn't apply to all guys.
The fact you're worried about your appearance says to me that you aren't 100% ccomfortable with your looks and that makes it harder for a guy to see the really you as you're not confident.
Get comfortable with you and then find a guy you like and see where it goes.
Some people don't date till later in life because of lots of reasons from religion to, shyness or because they are looking for someone perfect. So don't freak about that you haven't had a boy friend at 19.
2007-09-23 08:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Nitro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...you should know that there are a lot of guys that like bigger girls. Not every guy likes the typical stick. But, if your weight really bothers you, then try to lose weight. You have to be happy with yourself before others can. Show off how confident you are and learn to love your body. Guys are also attracted to confidence.
2007-09-23 08:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Neo Siren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no formula for that. Most guys are naturally geared to like physically healthy women. Society calls people shallow for this, but it's natural for both women and men prefer healthy partners. Don't fall into the trap of blaming guys for not liking you for your appearance because it won't change the fundamental problem: you. You should want to be physically fit for yourself. Fat is not 'who you are'. 'Fat' is not a personality trait. It is the result of a lifestyle you can change with determination and will. If you don't want to change your physical state, then just be content with who your are, but don't expect every guy that you are interested in to be physically attracted to you.
That said, love is something that comes with time and has nothing to do with a person's outward appearance.
2007-09-23 08:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by pmu44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 17:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can i tell you something... i have been where your at..There is someone for everyone..believe me.. There are guys who like big girls... its all how you present your yourself.. Show confidence and a good attitude.. it will pay off.. cause if you are down on yourself it will show... Good Luck
2007-09-23 08:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alias Sabrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is good that you except yourself as you are, but your health is a first here....anywho the more you look for a guy the more is immposible my saying is don't wait around for him to come...just keep doing your thing and it show up unexpected
2007-09-23 08:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off you need to just be happy with yourself and know that you'll be fine by yourself and then when your content and are not as focused on finding someone it will happen for you.
2007-09-23 08:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by starodo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me he is out there be patient, open, and gain some more self esteem about yourself, accept yourself and other will accept you too.
2007-09-23 08:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋