Mom and I have tried so many ways to persuade or even hidden his rice-alcohol bottle but there was no better result. He is still drinking and smoking a lot. He looks pale and thin...doesn't wanna eat but drink.I hate him with his drink! But seeing him getting weeker and thiner make my heart break. What can I do now, anyone help him, help me, please!!!
2007-09-23 07:27:05 · 10 answers · asked by Vy Tran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You and your Mom should get professional help for him.
Your Mom should try talking to him and telling him how hard it is on you and her.
If he refuses professional help, then you and your Mom might want to discuss having a future without him.
2007-09-30 03:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad was doing exactly the same. always drinking and smoking. never been able to go a day without him having a drink!!! my dad used to be very violent when he was drunk and my child hood was pretty poor. I am now 20 years old and after many years of telling my dad to stop drinking and cut down smoking he had a stroke around 3months ago. this was the wake up call he needed. a blessing in disguise some might say. although i didnt like to see my dad go through the torment of the stroke in a way im glad its happened. he has now cut down smoking and stopped drinking. I now have the dad i should have had many years ago. better late than never though
there is no convincing someone like that that what they are doing is bad for them. they have to have the wake up call to make them realise whatthey are doing o their body....
if you wanna talk further then please email me. i know when i was in your position i could have done with someone to talk to that knew what I was going through.
2007-09-30 19:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by TTC #1 xxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father did the same thing and I often tryed to reason with him. It never worked. The only good thing that came of it is I learned how to be a good Dad. It gave me strength through a difficult time in my own marriage. He died on thanks giving morning a lot of years ago and He paid for his foolishness. Set your heart to never yell at him only love and remember him when you are temped to use alcohol. Be the best Mom in the world. Best Wishes
2007-10-01 13:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can not convince your father to quit killing himself. Your father has to admit that he has a problem and want to stop. There are rehab centers that you and your mom can have him committed. Usually these are only short term basis and will only work if he wants it to. Babe I have learned one thing there is nothing that you can do to make him decided that he wants to stop. Hiding his Alcohol will not make it any better because he will find another way to get another bottle. He has a sickness and he has to want to stop and if he decides he wants to stop then he is going to need a lot of support. Check in your area for Alonon groups they are designed for families of alcoholics.
My prayers are with you
2007-10-01 00:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by honeybeeinwv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your poor thing :( My Dad commited suicide, he was an alcoholic and it was hard watching him go downhill, I was too young to realise how serious the situation was though, lucky for you your not! Do what I wish I had have done, show him how important he is to you and how much its hurting you to see him like this, show him your there for him and encourage him to get professional help. Show your on his team, not that your against him.
2007-09-23 14:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both you and your mother need to sit down together, discuss how you both will go about trying to convince him that his drinking ways are slowly killing him. Then tell him that both of you love him, and need him, and that you all would work together to help him, if he would only make the decision to help himself first.
Only the individual can make the decision to change, no one else can change someone else.
2007-09-23 14:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by graciouswolfe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing.... Your dad probably knows he is hurting you and your mum but either doesn't want to stop or doesn't know how to do it or isn't ready
Your dad needs to get professional help but he has to want to do this.
Can you and your mum shift out, maybe if you aren't there it wont hurt you so much
this must be totally draining on you both.....
2007-09-30 04:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you can't force someone to stop drinking. It is a choice they have to make for themselves. All you can do is make sure he knows you love him, and that his choices are hurting you. I recommend you get in touch with al-anon, or alateen. These are support groups for people whose lives are being effected by someone else's drinking. It helps to talk with other people who are suffering the same way you are.
http://www.al-anon.org/
2007-09-23 15:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by biogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything about this, but God can. He said ask in it will be giving to you.You don't need to hate your dad you need to hate what he is doing.Show him love.If he drinks his self to death then you can go the rest of your life knowing that you loved him, and that you did your best to help him.
2007-09-28 18:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by morning star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SHOULD GET HELP SOON
HIS LIVER WON'T TAKE ALL THAT ALCOHOL
2007-09-23 14:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by leonard m 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋