if your 18+ kid was moving back in with you , how would you decide what to charge them for rent?

Question

would you be happy ,or aggrivated , to have them back in the house , with you ,again?

and why?

this is rhetorical. my real daughter is going to be twenty. she pays 'her share of utilities', and hubby does put it towards utilities. and he keeps track of it on paper for her.
i personally love having HER here, but i could do Without the growing pile of dirty clothes in the bathroom closet,and i wish she'd return my towels and coffee cups. they are hidden, in her room ,somewhere. i'm sure of it.

Answer 1

Since it is my child, I would charge him based on what he/she makes. He/she would have to contribute part of his/her income toward the rent, utilities and food.

If my child and I had gotten along together fairly well before he/she moved out, I would be delighted to have him/her back in the house.

However, if we had gotten along poorly before he/she left, then no way would I allow them back in the house.

Finally, make sure you charge them enough so that they won't stay with you forever. Help them to realize that what they're paying you, they can be living somewhere else on their own!

Answer 2

When I was in my early 20s and out of college, I had a job but did not earn enough to rent a place alone and did not have a friend to room with. I moved back into my folks house and lived in their basement apartment for $120 per month, which was half the rent of an apartment at the time (this was 25 years ago). It helped me save money until I could afford to rent a place alone. I had the goal to save and eventually move out because I could not have friends (boyfriends) over and have privacy. It worked out great.

Answer 3

I would consider a percentage of his or her income. But I do feel that if the child is a college student, then there should be no rent, but duties instead. Be sure that you have set up roommate expectations so that you don't slip back into the full-on parenting role because you both need to honor that adult relationship you want to cultivate.

Also, don't expect your 18+ kid to be home for dinner every night. Just be sure you are checking in with each other, and being respectful of each other.

Answer 4

The first place, why they moved out? Happy or not depends on their attitude. Are they working? How much they earned? Just tell them to give you an amount which they can afford to let you spend if they have increment, then add extra amount for you too. Don't say charge rent. It sounds bad, just like they're not your kid and treat them like outsider. Don't forget that you're the parent of the kid. If they don't have any income just let them stay in, they will be very glad and appreciate what you have done for them.

Answer 5

I guess it would depend on the circumstance. If my 18-year-old isn't attending college, or worse, failed out, and/or jobless, I'd not be happy about them moving back in. If, on the other hand, they were moving back in and planning on saving their money, attending college [or some type of continued education], I'd be more than happy to have them there and help them out.

I'd charge a reasonable amount of rent, based on their income, and whether or not they are saving money for their future. I'd also set a time limit and base that on whether or not they're planning for their future, too.

No matter what, stick to your guns, because you're not doing them any favors with handouts.

Answer 6

my children are all grown and have lives... i am blessed... but at one time or another they have all needed my help, they contributed in different ways and it was a pleasant stay... it would depend on the situation, if he has lost his job and has no where else to go then i would allow him to get back on his feet with the understanding that he has to show responsibilty, but foremost make sure he is aware of the love you have for him, and it's because of that love you are welcoming him back into your home... and then see where he is coming from, and find out what he intends on doing in the near future, i would tell him that any contribution to the home he is willing to give would be appreciated, don't let him take advantage tho, be honest and sincere, if he doesn't like your terms then that's a shame and too bad for him...if he hasn't matured enough to have respect for you and your home, just be honest and tell him you don't feel it will be suitable for either of you... you can always offer other assistance, from an occaisional lift somewhere or the use of a phone or home cooked meal....best wishes and a prayer

Answer 7

Family dynamics vary... consider WHY they are moving back in with you, and the expected term of their return. Set the rules prior to them moving in, ie what chores they are expected to do, visits from their friends to your house(sleep overs especially), etc. While they ARE adults, this is YOUR house, set the rules that will ensure YOUR comfort. If you can afford to swing the bills on your own while they are with you, I would suggest you pay them all. Charge them a reasonable percentage of whatever you are paying, but put as much of that money aside in savings for when they move out again, unknown to them. Above all, have a set time that you expect them to be back out on their own!

Answer 8

Would I be happy? That depends on the reason why they move back in. But they would have to pay for their room and other things. At this age (18+) they should be able to support themselves so I see no reason why I should pick up the tab. It's not just rent, it's utilities, food, phone everything.

Answer 9

First does your kid have a job? Mine have moved back several times and I was very happy to have them home for awhile,but after a few months they were happier and so was I when they found their own place.No matter how old they are we tend to still treat them like children.If this is a have to situation I would let them save for their own place.If it isn't then I would have to think about it.Kids sometimes have a tendency to think that they don't have to pay rent when they move back home with their parents.

Answer 10

18 is too young to have been out of the house for any period of time anyways . I don't understand why you would have let him move out before 18 in the 1st place . Charge him rent ,yes , but you need to be more reasonable than you have in the past . that is just my opinion .