with or without???

Question

when should a child stop sleeping with his parent? i am a single mom and my child is soon to be 6. but has been sleeping with me from day 1.

Answer 1

There is no easy answer. Opinions vary and facts are few. Different societies have different rules. Available resources makes a difference. If you have no heat, then the whole family huddles together. If you have plenty of room and resources then that's different. One concern is emotional development and independence. A big concern is sexual abuse. Mostly that is a concern for fathers and daughters, but it is not unheard-of with mothers and sons or any other combination. It is likely that you can use your own judgment and do as well as any here might suggest. I think it's time your child slept alone, but that's an opinion and not necessarily a fact.

Answer 2

I'm not sure about your circumstances, but when my daughter was born until the time she was 4 she slept with me. At the time I was a single mom and she and I shared a bedroom. Once I moved to a larger place, getting her to sleep in her own bed was a huge chore. It took a good 2 months before she was fully comfortable sleeping on her own--and even then she required a nightlight. My daughter is now 9 and she sleeps just fine. :-)

In answer to your question, I don't think that there is a right age for your child to stop sleeping with you. I think that the older that the child is, the more difficult the transition will be. Or at least it was that way in my experience. At 6, I would think that your son should be sleeping in his own bed. But that is just my opinon. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

That question is solely up to you. But one day you are no longer going to be a single parent and you're going to want your space with a partner and your child is not going to understand. Right now you are teaching him insecurities by letting him sleep with you. He'll think he always has to have someone in the bed with him. Make him start sleeping in his own bed to teach him individuality and see how it goes. Good luck.

Answer 4

What does being a single mom have to do with it?
Is the child supposed to be a replacement in the bed for your husband?

Married or not the child should learn how to sleep on his/her own.

Answer 5

There is no set time exactly- it works longer for some families. I think it depends on when either the child or the parent expresses interest in Independence.

Answer 6

i watched supernanny and she said and this really works tell your child that she will sleep in her room bring her into her room read her a story and then kiss her and tell her goodnight and then sit right beside her bed dont make eye contact then everynight do that but move farther away each night and then when you get to the door dont do it anymore still everynight kiss her and read her a story but then go out of the room and close the door she will come out of her room and scream and everything but the first time she comes out grab her and put her back in the bed and say goodnight darling 2nd time bedime darling then the third time say nothing just put her back in bed and close the door and hold onto the door so she wont get out and she will be screaming and trying to get out but then she will be still screaming then she will eventually go to sleep and do that everynight it will work just give it time i hope that works oh yeah set her a specific bedtime hope it works

Answer 7

It is a good idea to start now. What will happen when he spends the night at a friends house. Start weaning him slowly into his own bed in his own room.

Answer 8

wel its upto u there is no any rule or second nature every family has its own like my sister is 7 n still sleepin with my mum

Answer 9

oh wow NOW is the time to let go, cause if he is goin too school he needs his own room and stop clanging to you