Is there any way around this? I thought I could leave my daughter with her father & grandparents!
2007-09-23 06:15:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
http://www.navy.com/about/before/enlistmentstandards/#singleparent
2007-09-23 06:18:24 · update #1
Shall I mention I don't know how to swim either?
2007-09-23 06:28:12 · update #2
The only way around this one is you have to sighn over legal custody and have the documents to prove it. You can't just leave your daughter in someone elses care.
2007-09-23 11:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to a recruiter yet? They'd be able to tell you...I am at A school right now and there are a few people with kids but I don't know their exact situations...I thought I heard somewhere that you could but you'd have to actually give custody to someone else. You might want to look into the other branches though since you are a single parent. You do realize that you're going to get deployed every year for 6-9 months at a time depending on your job right? You won't get a shore command until your 4th or 5th year And a lot of ships go out for a few weeks to a few months in between deployments too so you'd be leaving your daughter a lot.
It doesn't matter if you can't swim, they'll teach you at bootcamp...I passed my swim test and I still can't swim lol.
2007-09-23 13:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Stina B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly you will have to give up full custody of your daughter until the end of your contract , when my husband was in Korea I wanted to go active duty , though we were married the recruiter tried telling me I had to give our girls up , he lied... needless to say 7 yrs later I joined the Guard and we have 3 children, in order for me to join the Guard while he is Active duty all we needed was a Family Care plan since we are dual military...
Look it up further if you can , but honest you cant, there was a 19 yr old in BCT with me last yr who had 2 babies and gave them to her mom she cant get her sons back till the end of her contract.
I understand why the military does this , not a punishment for those who are single parents , but we are at war and they need everyone focused on the mission instead of having Soldiers returning due to Family Care issues.
Good Luck....
ANG Soldier & Armywife101/2 yrs
PS.. I would look at the families being tore apart already , meaning there were a few Soldiers (females) who were in the Armytimes because they had to deploy and left their child with the ex husband who was not in the Military before she knew it she lost full custody of her daughter..so many back up say they support us yet the courts have taken a child from her mother because of her deployments... just think about it , will you be able to handle being deployed for 15 months? away from your family?
Everyone says yes yes but in reality its hard , when I was in BCT last yr my husband was deploying again , he left week 4 of my ait , i requested leave so I could be there for my kids , because mom has always been there when dad deploys , I was not granted permission to do so. It was very hard on my yougest , and when I came home from AIT and my 1st drill weekend back my child became ill he thought I was deploying... I do wish you the best of luck in what ever you do, dont be like most of these kids get married to anyone just to come in the military... think about your daughter 1st!!
2007-09-23 15:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Justice35 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
single parents are ineligible to enlist in ANY Active Branch of the military. you cannot give up custody for the sole purpose of enlisting and you cannot regain custody during the first term of enlistment..anywhere from 4-6 years.
There is NO special consideration given to single parents.. they don't care if your babysitter canceled on you.. you deploy anyway.
2007-09-23 14:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
With your situation you can only go into the reserves. If you give away custody there is no guarantee you will get it back
2007-09-23 14:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone needs to take full custody of your daughter.
2007-09-23 13:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by collietta 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
looks like her father would have to take over full custody of her for you to enlist
2007-09-23 13:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes-- you can enlist -- but you must understand the Navy owns you not your child.. Any difficulties about your child and showing up on the job -- you may be an unhappy ship mate.... ...
2007-09-23 13:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Gerald 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋