English Deutsch Français Italiano Español Português 繁體中文 Bahasa Indonesia Tiếng Việt ภาษาไทย
All categories

i think they feel uncomfortable because they have less $$ than i do....they have mentioned to my GF that i spend to much on my car and house for my age...they don't even know how much i have...do u think it's the $$..i'm 28 and they are 50.

2007-09-23 05:45:39 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

my house 425k......Gf parents house 150k
me bmw vehicle.....gf parents vehicle tinkerbell looking suv's

2007-09-23 05:47:03 · update #1

35 answers

it might be the money. STOP BEING A RICH FLAUNT IN FRONT OF HER PARENTS THEN.

ask your gf about it. they'll definitely have a "talk" with her about you.

her parents probably think you're a bad influence b/c you spend so much. they worry that they'll not be able to match up, that your parents will expect a lot, that your gf (their little darling girl) will want to compare and get a nice car, designer clothes, etc just to fit in and match w/ you.

or they think you're luring their darling girl with your money and you don't really love her. make things clear with them.

if you really wanna impress them, don't flaunt your stuff. don't say "oh its nothing" when they note your bmw. buy your girlfriend stuff. even little things. chocolate. roses. a teddy bear. chinese takeout. go to mcdonalds, not fine diners.

2007-09-23 05:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

People don't realize that 28 year olds can have a nice car and a house and make a whole lot more money than they could 30 years before...just be nice and talk about the weather, don't talk about the car, the politics and if your the same faith as they are maybe that will help balance out their dislike of you. My guy was poorer than I was I think my folks felt the same thing but at least he was the same faith that gave him a few extra points. .. no they still dont' like him but it really doesn't matter I live with him not them :-)

2007-09-23 05:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0 0

Maybe they're worried that their daughter only likes you for your money.

Or maybe they don't like you because they think you're a jerk. And the fact that you go in a public forum and talk about how much your house and car costs is evidence to that.

You should probably make an effort to talk to them and show respect for them, and make sure they know that you have only the best intentions for their daughter.

You have to ask yourself, does the money matter to you? You seem to be looking down on them and they probably sense that. Stop being a jerk and thinking poorly of them and they'll do the same for you.

2007-09-23 05:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 0 0

They probably don't like you since you seem to be a snob even on Y! answers saying that their cars are tinkerbell suv's. It's apparent that you brag about your money and stuff and no parent or any other person cares for "I am better than you cause I have money" kind of people.......Arrogant comes to mind here. Be careful, people like yourself end up lonely and miserable.

2007-09-23 05:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sometimes people that struggle to have nice things assume that younger generations have everything handed to them. I do not know your situation, but maybe the parents do not find you traditional enough? You know if you had a daughter that started dating a young man with more money than you; it would make a parent uneasy. They probably raised her on values and not greed and are afraid that you may cause her to put distance between her and her family. Or they may just automatically be over-protective. That is my assumption..

2007-09-23 05:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

maybe they just worry about the long run. are you over spending and going to put her in debt in the future. just because you come from less doesn't mean anything about the person. they could have a great family and appreciate more since they have less money. is there a big age gap between you and you gf? you user name is snotty, maybe that's why. sometimes arrogant people only care about money and materialistic b.s. change your ways or change your girlfriend.

2007-09-23 05:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by deidre 3 · 0 0

No, I don't think it has anything to do with the money - they may be wondering HOW you earn this kind of money, though. Parents are by nature, suspicious creatures. Why? Because they are protecting their daughter. You may feel that they dislike you, but the opposite could be true. They may find it difficult to cope with the idea that she is growing up now and sharing her life with someone they have yet to get to know. It doesn't happen instantly.

2007-09-23 05:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well for one, your username tips me off. "snotty anus." going by that, and the fact that you assume these people don't like you because you have more money.... no offense, but you sound very immature for your age, and that's probably what they're truly worried about. parents like to see nice, responsible partners for their children, not arrogant, irresponsible people who care about thigns that aren't important. yes, I'm referring to the things you've bought. it's not that they're jealous, it's that they know you're not focused on the right things, that you're very surface-level, and that this will probably last you your whole life long, therefore making a future with their daughter look very dismal and honestly, like nothing good can come of it.

so either get your priorities straight, or leave this poor girl alone. any girl deserves better than a snotty anus.

2007-09-23 05:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by avacado pie 4 · 0 0

If you didn't show your money off like you are doing right now then you wouldn't have this problem

Have you tried going to her house in a taxi and see how that goes with them. Maybe then they probably wouldn't be uncomfortable around you.

2007-09-23 05:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by MrsGill 3 · 0 0

Since they have little to no knowledge of your financial status, perhaps they feel you are over-spending and are simply concerned for their daughter's future happiness. You don't mention your girlfriend's age, but it is important in this scenario. If she is over 21 and no longer dependent upon her parents for support, then she needs to cut the apron strings. Her parents are attempting to control her life...not unusual for many parents.

2007-09-23 05:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

fedest.com, questions and answers