My girlfriend has this and it's really hard on our relationship. Can anyone help with some advice. I love her more than anything in the world and want to make this work but I'm feeling hopeless. Please give some advice of similar situations.
2007-09-23 04:19:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
seek counseling for her. if she already is you should go to one sesion with her and possibly ask the therapist these things.
2007-09-23 04:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by liketoplay420 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is really difficult to be in love with someone suffering from a mental illness.
The first thing you can do is learn about it. The more you understand it, the better prepared you are to help the person you love. You will know mood swings are typical for a person with BPD. This information may help you to remain calmer when she is having problems.
You also need to set clear boundaries for her. She cannot abuse you. She must continue to seek treatment. You can encourage and support her, such as making sure she has transportation, or going to the appointment with her so she won't have to go alone, but in the end you cannot manage this illness without her participation. If she is prescribed meds, she needs to take them. You are her partner, not a babysitter.
Take time for yourself to relax and get away from it all. Maybe seek a support group of others that deal with the same problem. This will better equip you to be there for her to physically and emotionally support her.
Good luck to you. Pat yourself on the back. Not everyone would stick around and help her.
2007-09-23 12:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by katty0205 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might try reading the following paperback:
I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality by Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus
Good luck.
2007-09-23 11:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, scratch anything anybody says if they call this a "mental illness". It isn't a mental illness, and it's not even classified as a mental illness. It's a personality disorder. She has a flawed character. The two most important factors in maintaining an healty relationship are character and attitude.
Run away, cut your losses, it ain't worth it.
2007-09-24 09:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she in therapy and/or on medication? There is not much you can to for her. She has to want to help her self. She needs to admit to having the condition and be faithful to her treatment. Without therapy and meds there is no keeping this condition under control. Often people decide they feel better and stop all forms of treatment. This is a false security. The meds and therapy are for ever. The meds and therapy are not a cure but a tool. Of course she needs a positive support system as well. But first and foremost she has to want to help herself.
2007-09-23 11:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by emtd65 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do a yahoo search on
LIVING WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER
COPING WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER
and you can also search for BPD FORUMS... lots of them around... and you can get support and advice.
i hope it works out.
2007-09-23 11:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋