i hv been goin around wid my bf 4 10 months n 4 d past 6 months v hv been in a long dist relationship, nw he is a flirt..bt he says he loves me, there's dis chat grl he talks 2 n she keeps on sayin i love u 2 him n he still chats wid her, i've asked him 2 stop talkin n he says he hs..bt frm time 2 time i find him talkin 2 her n he says that she's just a chat girl n he loves me.....he myt b tellin d truth..bt he could b lying 2...
should i leave him if i agn find him talkin 2 her? or should i just take a chill pill as she's just a chat girl?
2007-09-23 03:02:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I felt like I was reading a text message... If he loves you then he loves YOU. I would flip if my guy was saying he loved me and yet found it necessary to hear it from someone else...especially a "chat" chick. People that need constant reinforcement on their greatness (i.e. others in chat) usually mean heartbreak in the long run. Why are you in an LDR anyway? If you're both young...call if off. Look for someone in your area. If you're older (seriously can't tell by the question) then have a mature discussion on what he sees for you both in the future.
2007-09-23 03:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you long distance? Will the two of you ever get together again?
In one way, this other girl can't harm you if all they are is chat friends. But if all you and he are is chat friends, then maybe the two of you need to talk more seriously about what you want from each other and about what you hope for the future.
Maybe spend more time talking with him when you get the chance. not just chatting and flirting, but does he ever get in a serious mood? How does he treat you different from the other girl?
Don't be envious, that is a big turn off. Think carefully. What is it you want from him? What are the things you want from a guy? Do you want all his time and all his attention? That might not be mature. If you are just a little insecure, admit that to him. Maybe he isn't aware of how it hurts.
It took me a long time to learn the truth: nobody knows how you are feeling right now unless you tell them. He can't read your mind, so don't blame him for not knowing unless you tell him. Communicate!
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2007-09-23 03:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by cdf-rom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if he hasn't met the girl then everything is just fine and she's just a chat girl. If he really loves you then he wouldn't be doing it in the first place. Long distance relationship doesn't really work out for the best. He may get the attention of another girl behind your back and not say a word. Unless of course you go see him from time to time. So its really up to you on what to do. Everything is in front of you and should make an easy decision.
2007-09-23 03:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by redhotchillidawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him, if he says he loves you, then he wouldn't be talking any other girl, he should take your feelings into consideration. This is not love. Leave him, let him find later what he is missing, he will then realise what he has been doing is wrong. You should tell that girl to back off and not to interfere. Next time you ask a question write it in english, this mobile language is so annoying. Anyway good luck
2007-09-23 08:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the four month relationship you and your boy friend had when you were together. The last 6 months which you mention to be a distance relationship is the true test of the so called "love". If your boy friend shows signs of going astray (in any form) now itself then imagine when you are married and have to remain seperated for short periods due to certain compelling reasons. "Habits die hard" !!!
2007-09-23 03:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ganesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took me about 4 months to learn how to dance Salsa... and I'm a very fast learner, it's not just about leaqrning moves, it's about felling the rythim in your blood, soul and body and techniques. A week is not even near enought to learn your first move. Sorry to disappoint you but it's a true fact. My GF treaches Salsa. I should know about this.
2016-05-21 07:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he respects you enough he will stop. He will tell chat girl that he is in a relationship now and can't talk to her anymore. It seems he is holding her around for a spare. You shouldn't have to ask.
2007-09-23 03:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can never trust that person who does not respect his gf now its ur choise weather u ave 2 put up with em or not .u shd love a person who loves u not who u love. now hes is a flirt as u say do not let ur self down u 2 start flirting with guys simply before em now if he is ok with it end the story if he is angry find out why n then answer em what he is doing
bye
2007-09-26 05:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I could barely read that. There're these things called capital letters and spelling... maybe you could incorporate these into your typing.
If over half of your relationship has been long distance, it's probably not going to last. Especially if you have to come to Yahoo Answers for advice. If he's continuing to talk to this girl, let him go.
2007-09-23 03:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by good gollum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a chat girl?
He's like emotionally two timing you.
If my boyfriend did that I would think he thought there was something that "chat girl" had that I don't.
And that would make me mad.
And then I would dump him.
He has already has his first warning so I guess theres not much else to do.
Sorry hun x
2007-09-23 03:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Revenge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋