so my buddy has been with his gf for 3 years now.... and things have been great between them....
recently he's been going through a rough time... and he's under alot of stress...
He told me that he's having second thoughts about his relationship.... he loves her and doesnt want to break it off but at the same time... he wants to!.... he doesnt really know what to do.
I told him its just the stress and he should give it some time and think about it...
because what they have is amazing... and he said he doesnt want to just throw this away.....
i don't think i was of much help to him:(
any advice?
thanks alot
i asked this question a while ago but i needed a few more answers...
thanks so much
2007-09-23 02:51:36 · 10 answers · asked by lilwingACA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whats stressing him?
Depends on what it is that would make some idiot throw away such a good relationship as that (not insulting the guy, just in general).
Ask him what would he do without her, and how lucky he is to have her, and how hard it would be to find somebody better or as equal as her, remind em of the memories they've had, and what not, and that should scare him straight.
What could be stressing him that much? Money? Family? Study? He needs to learn how to bottle it up, and release it on a punching bag (as I do).
2007-09-23 02:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can love and care for someone, and at the same time, NOT want a committment...
Please don't tell your friend what he thinks or feels. You don't know whether he's feeling this way because of stress.... but You were very supportive, i think, and the suggestion about giving it some thought and a little time is quite good.
Sometimes people don't want to be tied down, and need more space. Sometimes they just don't want to be in a relationship anymore. They don't have to have a "reason"...
2007-09-23 02:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him to talk to his girlfriend about their relationship. I think its grate that he has such a wonderful friend that cares about him asmuch as u do but he need to discuss this with his girlfriend. He needs to tell her wot exactly is stressing him, and how she can not add to it. You need to remind him that they love each other and that he will regret not tlkinf through it or just throwing it away, and that you need to give all gd relationships time and effort to work through the rough patches
try tlking to the girl and tell her that u sense everything isnt right. dont tell her that the boy ahs been tlkin to u, it myt make things worse, just say that she shud b trying to help him through his stress, not intensifying it. But maybe she has issues of her own?
after a while (if the stressful suituation outside the relationship r gone) and ther r styl rouf patches in the relationship, they need to really study wot is going rong - maybe they r not right for each ofa, maybe the need to break up permanently or take abreak. But only time will tell and right now is not a gd time to make that dissicion because it isnt the right circumstances. to just throw it away they might regret it. They owe it to themselves and the wonderful relationship they have to wrokt through it bcos a proper relaionship needs commitment, nto just throwing in the towel wen things get a bit difficult
xx i hope they get better and that tis helps, gd luk xxx
2007-09-23 03:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be making this kind of decision under stress. That said, if his gf is not making things easier when he's obviously having a hard time, that is very telling about her. Three years together is not as much to throw away as you might thing...not compared to being saddled with this woman for a lifetime if he's truly unhappy.
2007-09-23 02:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend if he is working take a vacation for at least a week spend sometime alone in a beach or province sometimes being alone helps you not just it makes you relax but it gives you time to reflect on the things taht really matter to you
2007-09-23 02:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by eseer e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a tough one but all relationships gp through rough times but if theres more rough times than good ones and more pain then pleasure and more tears than smiles than its time to break up
2007-09-23 02:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he should be telling her this. If it were me, I would want to know. The only way to resolve it is to discuss it with your partner and decide if you should :
A. take a break
B. date others
C. figure out the issue and resolve it
2007-09-23 02:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did have the right answer for him. What he should do though, is talk with his girlfriend about it. If neccesary, maybe they should take a break.
2007-09-23 02:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by ballaboy321115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask the girl. since she is in the relationship, she might have an idea how to help him.
good luck!!
2007-09-23 02:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say this a relationship, that i have seen for a while, and SAY are u relly willing to give that up?
2007-09-23 02:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋