Ok my girlfriend wants to talk to me morning, noon and night. She says she needs to talk to me to "build" our relationship, but she wont ever stop talking!!!!!! I CANT TAKE IT!!! I could be perfectly happy not saying a word to anybody all day, and she would be perfectly happy TALKING EVERY SECOND OF EVERYDAY ABOUT THE SAME STUFF OVER AND OVER AGAIN!!!! And when we stop talking on the phone (as in stop saying stuff) she proceeds with a stream of questions (i'm talking 15 questions per minute) and then i get pissed and yell at her (cause i cant deal with that much talking) and then she cries and we have a fight. She doesnt ever want to stop talking and i cant take it.......................What do you think of her dong this?.......AND....Can a relationship be killed by TOO much talking?..........P.S. We have a long distance relationship and we talk EVERY ******** day after school.
2007-09-23 02:47:20 · 16 answers · asked by Cody 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We met online and then we met in real life, this is a continuation of a relationship, we just had a big break up when i went and dated another girl just to see what my feelings for her where cause i havent dated that many people and i need to know ya know? Well she says i cheated on her by flirting with this girl while i was dating the girl i am now. So god is this thing going to hell or what?
2007-09-23 02:48:55 · update #1
Well first of all. I am in the same situation as you. I met my current boyfriend online and we finally decided to meet in person. We have been together for over a year now! :) Anyways, in a successful relationship, the communication needs to be very open, especially because it is a long distance. If you can't discuss things, the issues get pushed aside, bottled up, and eventually the pot spills over, creating a big mess to clean up. Avoid that. Talk to her.
However, I realize that is not what your complaint is about. Successful relationships also need to be well balanced. Not too much of her, and Not too much of you. You need to find some common ground that will make both of you happy. You need to build up your tolerance of her yapping and wanting to talk to you every second of the day. She needs to calm herself down and not be so high strung (have some self control).
Relationships are not killed by too much talking, but killed by the quality of its communication. You need to talk to her. Make sure you emphasize that it's not because you don't care about her, but you are the type of person that needs to be alone with your thoughts once in awhile and enjoy your quiet time. But also put some time aside inwhich you aren't going to be annoyed when she rants away. She may just talk so much because she has more emotionally invested than you do. Like a nervous talk. She could be afraid you'll find someone else... and that way if she is always talking to you, you won't be able to talk to anyone else. Is she like that in person also? Give it time. Problems can't be fixed over night.
On the other hand. If you really can't deal with it, and you have had a heart to heart discussion WITH her (not at her), and you still don't see positive results.... you may want to reconsider your relationship with her. It doesn't make her or you a bad person, but it means that it wasn't meant to be or you aren't right for eachother.
Good luck to you!
By the way.... being in an online relationship.. she is right about the open lines of communication. That is all you have at this moment. It's not like you can just go see her after work.
2007-09-23 03:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk what to say if you didnt have some sort of feelings for her then you wouldn't be asking for advice and you probably would have broken up with her a longtime ago right? but i think it is going down the drain its long distance and you dont really want to talk to much i had a long distance once and my boyfriend was like you are he didn't like to talk everyday and i noticed cause im really sensitive so i began to call every 2 days or every other day and when i did call sometimes kept it real short and cheerful to keep our spirit up so why don't you call her more and keep it short so shell get the vibe
2007-09-23 09:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what girls do when they don't trust in their bf. and that is your fault. Now she is constantly checking on u to see if u love her or if you are with another chik. Just maker her feel secure about u, tell her that you need to talk too. It will go away with the time (if u survive in the relationship), so don't take it too seriously, and don't think about break up, bcz that will be a stu*p1D reason for breaking up. good luck
2007-09-23 09:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only hurting her more, if you had the right feelings for this girl, you wouldn't want to see anyone else. Just let her go. Stop being afraid of hurting her, you will hurt her more in the long run.
2007-09-23 09:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...
You're clearly a silent kind of guy and she's clearly a chatter box.
It really depends. If you dont like her much and all she does is annoy you then its not a good relationship.
If you like the fact that you disagree and that you are completely different then dont break up.
Its normal for people to fight and its normal for people who are wayyyy different to attract to eachother.
You decide.
Good luck!
2007-09-23 09:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by CandyxAcid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Some girls are like that and I know it is annoying.
Man, thats the way she is. YOU CANT EVER CHANGE THAT.
I do not think you need the hassle of seeing someone that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Yes you need to talk to build you relationship but if its driving you nuts coz its quantity and not because of its quality, leave her! say youre not right for each other.
2007-09-23 09:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by matahari 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its a long distance relationship then the only thing you can do is talk.
split up with the girl let her move on and find someone who is interested in her, someone who wants to listen to her, some one who cannot wait to hear from her every day !!
because obviously your not the one for her and she deserves better !!
2007-09-23 09:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by t1nk_b3ll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's going down the drain. If she's getting on your nerves this bad right now, imagine putting up with it for 10 years if marriage is in the picture. May be best to throw in the towel and move on, even if it does hurt.
2007-09-23 09:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by sunniedispo28 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ok? Maybe try talking to her about it, if you already have and you nor she is happy in the relationship its time to cut the strings loose.
2007-09-23 09:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by bri82495 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
9 out of 10 long distance relationships don't work. You guy are so opposite so no it wouldn't work. Like the song say " Let it Burn".
2007-09-23 09:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by CeCe 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋