he is in primary 2, i have a 4 year old daughter, i am gled my son has come to me and asked but i dont know what to say!! i dont want to tell him more than i need to, what is appropriate?
2007-09-23 02:35:13 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if hes old enough to ask tell him the truth
2007-09-23 02:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest being as honest as you can, using age appropriate language.
My four year old knows (and knew when he was three, as the first little brother came then), that a baby comes out of Mommy's privates (use whichever words you are most comfortable with - I used 'younger' language for obvious reasons).
I showed him on the babycenter.com's diagrams (side view of a cross section of what a woman's body is like during gestation) where his baby brother would come out.
He got to see where the baby grows inside, which he was very interested in, and where the baby would come out...he'd ask to see the pic again once in a while (when you're pregnant and registered with babycenter.com, you get weekly updates on growth), and then the 'bump' wasn't such a mystery anymore. It helped him connect with the baby inside.
I explained that where the baby comes out is different than where you go to the bathroom from, so he wouldn't be confused. It really helped him be comfortable with the whole idea, so it wasn't just some magical mystery.
You don't need to describe the act that got the baby in there in the first place, but there's no harm in teaching him how a baby comes out.
2007-09-23 03:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "the mommy has a special opening that is made especially for the baby to come through when the baby is ready." And that should satisfy him. You don't have to go into details at that age. He is probably wondering if the mother is going to vomit the baby out, or if she ate something to make it get inside. Just answer the specific question with a simple answer. Don't get into the "birds and bees" talk at that age. Just answer the actual question he asks.
Sometimes if you (along the way) can allow the children to be exposed to an animals pregnancy and birth can be a big help in understanding reproduction. (at least with the mechanics, obviously you will want to instill in him a sense of responsibility with regards to sex before he becomes a teenager) Good Luck!
2007-09-23 02:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 year son babies tummies replied hospital asked
2016-02-02 05:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bryna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my children that a lady and a man have a special cuddle which makes a baby. They didn't ask what was so special until a few years later though. If he means how does it get out of your body I think you could tell him the truth, maybe try and watch some animal programme where an animal gives birth to let him sort of get the gist of things
2007-09-23 20:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son asked me the same question when he was going on three, and then again when he was nearly four. I managed to put him off at first with some hazy answer, but I thought about it and started talking about the human anatomy in a matter of fact way. I explained about sex and how people reproduce but I held back about the emotional responsibility and feelings because he is too young to know all that. He is now eight, with a fantastic knowledge of the human anatomy. He can even tell you what the little thing hanging down your throat is called!
2007-09-23 04:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by porkchop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mirriam stoppard has written a really good book on dealing with these sort of questions, with age related answers. Trouble is I can't remember the exact title. Maybe Wh Smith would be able to help. These type of questions will just keep on coming I'm afraid.
2007-09-23 02:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is simple human biology, why not just tell him how it works?
First off, babies aren't in 'tummies', they are in 'uteruses'. Google 'female reproduction system' on images.google.com & show him pictures of what the organs look like & where they are in a woman's body. Then, show him the vaginal canal, where the baby emerges.
It's a pretty amazing system, actually.
2007-09-23 03:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him - my son was only 6 too when he started asking.
If he's old enough to ponder the reason, then he's old enough to understand the answer!
When we told our son (and his eyes had popped back into his head!) we told him he shouldn't tell the others at school, as their parents would tell them when they were old enough to understand. We made a bit of a fuss about him being clever for his age and all that!
It backfired on us, though, as we went to parents' evening a week or so later and the teacher informed us that our son had been enlightening the whole class about his new-found knowledge!
2007-09-23 02:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by chip2001 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell ur son otherwise he might tell everyone ( i don't mean to be rude) Just say that u don't know or try to change the subject. I am 13 and i found out when i was 10 years old that is the appropriate age (i learnt it form school)...
2007-09-23 05:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by YouDon'tKnowMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need to tell him, at this stage, how the baby got there?
I remember my niece asking her 2-year older nephew "how does it get out?".
Shot down by a lofty 6-year old saying "You've got three holes, stupid!"
As already suggested, this, I think is the right way to go; this is just one more difference between men and women which they can accept.
2007-09-23 02:50:13 · answer #11 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋